I really thought the bullying had ended…I really did. I thought everyone made mistakes. so why does everyone dwell on that? Tell me I’m nasty…that I’m a whore, slut, and worst..nothing. It’s one thing to call someone a slut or *****…but to tell someone they’re nothing..Sorry I guess you didn’t know I already knew about that. JUST when I was starting to get better. I hadn’t self-harmed in over 2 weeks. I deleted my Instagram, I’m refusing to get on Twitter. Lucky I still get on Facebook, which is only to talk to my dad who doesn’t live with me. Social networks weren’t made to put someone down so WHY? Why do they put me down? I just…can’t..
What did you do “wrong” to have been deemed a whore or a slut in the first place?
Or is it just pure rumours?
Over a year ago I went into the girl’s bathroom with boy after school. And nothing happened..but a girl who used to be my best friend at the time recently posted about it online and others saw it and started bashing on me..
How old are you?
And did the boy defend you?
I’m almost 17. and he most definitely did..we’ve been dating for 6 months..
Then maybe that’s why they think you “did something”. Anyway, why does it bother you that people you most likely don’t like AT ALL, say some mean things about you?
You’re angry at them for dwelling on it, but you yourself are dwelling on the mean things they’re saying to you. Fuck them. Enjoy your time with your boyfriend. As long as you, your close friends and your boyfriend know the truth, where’s the harm? Stay away from social media for a while and it’ll all go away. People tend to forget things like this. Besides, you’re 16, is it so bad that you’re supposedly sexually active (in their eyes) with a guy you’ve been with for 6 months? Where I’m from, you’d be praised for waiting so long. 🙂
You remind me of my best friend… and strangely, this makes me feel better. At least for the time being…thanks
I’m glad it helps.
By the way, that cutting thing – not so good.
Does your boyfriend know about it?
Yes…I finally told him…he doesn’t like it. But I’m stopping. I’m really really trying.
That’s good then. Why else do you cut?
I’ve actually been bullied since 7th grade…by numerous people. And back then I really hadn’t done anything. I just went about my day keeping to myself and I started getting picked on really bad…and of course when I reached high school it just got way worse…and then I started giving them something to talk about. Bad on my part. I go to a small school like about 300 kids. So word spreads fast. And I finally had just convinced myself I was just as bad as they made me out to be.
They’re high school kids. All of them make stupid shit up. It’s usually their own insecurities, they’re just projecting onto you.
They usually do it to the people better than themselves. 😛
It’s a compliment.
Have you ever confronted these people?
And has it ever been physical?
I’ve confronted one, that was a girl. She still hasn’t stopped. And I punched a guy in the face before…but that’s it. I’m honestly too scared..
I know you don’t want to look like a weakling or anything, but have you considered telling a teacher?
Or asking some of your friends to go with you to talk to her?
By talk to, I mean beat the shit out of. 😉
After I told my mom, she went down to the school and raised hell. So all the teachers in my school know. They changed my whole schedule to get me out of this girl’s gym class because of some stuff she did to my belongings in my locker..anyway, nothing has changed. I’ve given up on the staff at my school.
To be honest that’s more than teachers normally do. I’d tell you to be grateful, but it didn’t change anything, so it was a bit pointless.
Is it not possible to change schools?
Nope, The nearest school is about a half hour away with no bus services to where I live…and we don’t have the money for gas..I can’t help but think this was all supposed to happen to me..
In what way was this “supposed” to happen to you?
It’s purely circumstantial. You had no control over it – as frustrating as it might be. It was not your fault.
You might want to find a way to tell this girl to back the fuck up.
Do your friends know about her? Does your boyfriend?
Everyone in school knows..
So why the hell doesn’t anyone do anything about it?!
Does this girl hurt you physically?
Nope and thank goodness. I don’t know what I’d do if it ever did..If I were to hit her back, I’d get kicked out of school..so..I just don’t think there’s anything left to be done..
What kind of things does she say to you?
I’m going to bed now seeing as it is 4:45am and my dad’s roaming around. I’ll reply tomorrow. Have a good night. 🙂
Oh gosh if only I could remember everything…she used to post mean stuff online until I blocked her…she used to say stuff to my boyfriend..she used to yell things at me when I walked in the hall..and everytime she would see me, she had something bad to point out about me, whether it be my outfit or my make up or just another flaw I can’t change.
Bitches be crazy, man.
That girl needs to get a life.
And you need to learn to tell her to go fuck herself. Show her that you don’t care about what she has to say. She’ll lose interest eventually. That’s how it goes for most of the kids at my school.
Trust me, I try… And I think it helps that everyone hates her at school because…well because she’s mean. She’s a mean girl.
Maybe she does it because she’s dealing with her own shit. Projection and all that.
I dunno..I mean we used to be BEST friends. Inseparable. And she was spoiled rotten. And she was SO mean to her parents and siblings…always calling her mom names and really she didn’t do anything..she got a boyfriend and chose him over me and accused me of telling him she cheated on him when I didn’t..I’ve told her I didn’t do it and the real person who did admitted it..she just keeps it up though..