Every day it seems to get worse. I get these thoughts mainly at night. As I lie in bed all I can think about is how I can’t see myself finding anyone.
I don’t have real ‘friends.’ I used to believe that I did, but it seems as if every ‘friend’ I’ve had ends up joining everyone else in making fun of me.
I try to be nice to people and help them out with their problems. Many people come to me about relationship advice. Me. The guy who can barely get a girl to even look in his direction. They come to me. And the thing is, the things I tell them work. They get to take credit for my feelings.
Which brings me to my next subject: girls. I will not be cocky and say that I am stunning, but I can honestly tell you I am NOT ugly. I don’t know, maybe I “care too much” by trying to help everyone and what not, but I seem to have been put in the dreaded ‘friend zone’ by nearly every girl I know. This really gets to me when I see assholes picking up nice girls.. I don’t think they deserve to have a nice girl. I can go on and on about this topic, but I’ll end it here.
Anyways, this lack of friends/others and my want to make others happy ends up not mixing well. As I stated earlier, I get to thinking at night, and eventually that led me here. I might stay here for a while, I suppose.
And with that, I conclude my story. If you have any advice for me, please tell me.
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You say that you end up in the dreaded ‘friend zone’ with girls – do you tell them how you feel? Do you try to win them over? Just curious.
I have tried both, the only thing close to success I’ve had is via telling them how I feel. I recently tried to win a girl over, and I thought it was going well. However, after a few days she told me that she couldn’t talk to me again. Ever. (Later found out I was being used to make another guy jealous.) I don’t know, maybe all the girls I try to talk to are assholes, or maybe I’m just weird as fuck.. :/
SAME AS ME!
3 things:
1.Lack of charm
2.a smell of depression in your texts towards the girls
3.girls who dont see you as a possible guy; they try to refubrish you,use you, and throw you away; since you are a “low wall” for them, the one which is very easy to jump over.
1.girls love to be owned. when they start a relationship; they expect from you a real male COCK’s action. but ofcource in the norms of ethics.and if they dont get what they expect, they say a screu’em ill find someone else.rarely girl really wants your heart at first step. deep in a girly mind all of them whant to be owned by us,and be felt that they are the weaker ones and we are the stronger.
i hate to tell this, but from years of experience, this is the conclusion i come to.
lack of manly charm is a very serious issue. many males suffer of it. i personally am 27 and have no idea how to approach a girl.everytime i try, i start to feel how sorry i am, that my heart will be broken again. and in the middle of relationship i screu everything up.the fact that girls sense my depressions adds up to all the negative things and gives a horrible outcome.never had a girlfriend,never will. i quit the fight. im too broken and taired.i guess you feel kinda same way. CHARM! get it somewhere, have no idea where. but without it, you are doomed.throughout history; many phisically and/or morally ugly men have won a beautiful girl not because of their fine quolities but because of this misterious charm that i know nothing about. so this is the first broken point in your mechanism of mind, that leads you to non success. second will be:
2. by nature, girls feel insecure at some level, all the time. maybe because we men know that if something wi give fists in theeth of our enemies. but what a girl may give back if attacked. so they always search for strong. it is no nessesary to really be a mike tyson. but you must make her feel that way. by your self-confidence, and some self -esteem.girls have extreme sense of smell of depression; in somebody. their brain is constructed such way, that they kinda parse through your speach word by word, to find the evedence of depression. they hate it. when you open your heart up and say that you are afraid of heartbrake, it turns them off. it is wrong, i agree. we men are not shields or armour for them, first of all we are personalities. but wemen dont want to see this. they hate a low self confident man. i am very low confident, thats why im mainly alone.
3.in this life you will find many evil minded men, and also wemen. i would say that everyone is partially evil .its just the level evillness that matters. while going through rough terrain of this world, girls have quite narrow choices when they are about to take a decision.they cant start wars or rob anyone phisically; so they try to survive by doing that mentally. a girl always searches for recource to suck it and make her life better. if a girl detects that you have nothing interested, then she may put you into a bag of dushbags who by her intension wil be used in her purpouces and then will be thrown away.iv seen a girl trying to do that to me in a more or less good way. for example she was making out of me her beloved brother, i have also seen a girl who was literally trying to use me like a sheet of cloth and throw me. and she succeeded in it.she broke my life, but made her life better than everyone.
see, when they tell you that you’r complicating things; you are not, things are complicated.living in a human skin nowdays is extremally hard. sorry man. this world is a cruel place. who told you that you was born for freedom and happiness???. if they did, know it – they lied.
PhantomOfDarkness,
First, I’d like to thank you for taking the time to give me such an outstanding reply.
Lack of Charm really does seem to be a big issue for me, as well as my confidence while speaking/interacting with girls.
&Recently I became tired of myself, so I began working out somewhat heavily. I am already seeing results, and I really hope this helps my confidence.
Again, thank you for your advice.