I am 45 years old, I have been clinically depressed since I was 17. Â It has been a long and arduous path with several major setbacks including 2 long term hospitalization a as a ward of the state. Â The reason I bring this up is that after years of talking with many like minded people and reading dozens of posts on this site there is a common theme. Â Most of us seem to think that at least part of our problem is the fact we just don’t belong. Â Speaking for myself, the pressure to conform in today’s society has resulted in much of my anxiety and self destructive behavior. Â Medications and therapy are methods of physical, mental and chemical control and manipulation. Â What if we are not wrong…what if we hold in our hands the answers but are unable to express them. Â We cannot be ourselves. Â I am not a conspiracy advocate by any means but it warrants some thought. Â No one has been able to answer this question satisfactorily for 28 years. Â Is the answer out there? Â Does anyone agree with me? Â Or am I as lost as some others think? Â I want to hear your responses.
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I guess for me (I’m 38) it wasn’t that I felt I don’t belong, I just think I suck. I’m not comfortable in my own skin, never have been. If anything, I wanted to go against the flow. Idk, I’m so messed up….
I know I don’t belong. I’m misplaced in time. I don’t understand people or the things that they do to one another, or why anyone could accept it as normal. I don’t care enough to figure it out, either.
But medications aren’t necessarily a form of control – I’d do anything to feel better when I’m wading through a severe slough of depression or anxiety, and meds have helped me with more than just that. ADHD and OCD will tear your brain in half and put both pieces through a shredder – but at least the process will be extraordinarily organized. I wouldn’t be able to sit down and so much as read a sentence, much less a post on here, or a book, if not for ADHD meds, at the least.
I am 46 y.o and have Aspergers.I feel like I live in a fucking “dream-world” of which I can’t participate in.I really FUCKING hate God for giving me this useless life.My job is a joke because I make close to minimum wage.I love to learn ,but can,t finish school because of my severe anxiety.
Ditto. I am the square peg in the round hole. I do feel that if someone took interest that they would see some value in me. So far this has not happened. I have a lot to offer the world but unfortunately it does not fit with status quo.
I am not sure if it is that I felt I don’t belong but I guess for me it is I always felt alone. I have always felt abandoned by people that should love me. I feel like I belong here where I am but that if I were gone, who would truly miss me, no one!
I hope though you do get your answers. That is all I have ever wanted, answers to why.
Keep your head up
I feel similar to Leeeza. I see beauty in the world, in the natural world mostly, and people who are more sensitive to others. I mean people who care. But most of the stuff on tv, the amount of cruelty, the stomping about way so many people are (my family) makes me ill, physically and mentally. If I was just let be I know I would have been fine. (I was fine. In pictures of me age 3 i am laughing. By age 4or5 there is a sadness in my eyes. My smiles look nervous. A little less free. A little more like an animal in a cage.
I seem different from my sister, brother, mother, father. Even my blood type is different from every family member. I look different, I think different. I imagine the worst of the world being vacuumed away, and then maybe it would be okay. I’ve wondered if I was put on the wrong planet, family. I hoped I was adopted but it seems I wasn’t.
Mad dogs would get run out of a pack so the others can function and survive. But in our world, mad dogs get to the top. It’s all upside down. Think about this, we need to be sensitive to others in nature to survive. But those of us here on this site seem to be the sensitive ones. We are the ones on the suicide site. Not the mad dogs. They are …well somewhere else and not thinking of suicide. I think we feel like the animals in the cages at the zoo, who no longer have freedom. They pace, they hurt them selves, they chew at their own bodies, they are depressed. Because their world was made very small. They are not on the open fields, or in the forest with all the sounds and feelings there where their minds would be free.
That’s my ramblings at 5 am.
I feel worse than not belonging I feel just worthless. I am constantly guilty and feel like some sort of garbage. I have a wife and daughter and I look at them and think what are you two idiots doing here get out while you can. I constantly make massive life judgement errors that put both of them at risk but i keep doing stupid things. I am massively self destructive and my life alternates between periods of run of the mill self destruction(drugs, alcohol, smashing cars DUI, gambling away home loan money) to just wanting to kill myself to give everyone around me a break from my nonsense. I hate taking meds because it makes me feel hopeless or controlled but i have started again this week because i am just a bloody nightmare when left to my own devices.