Has anyone played the ole “wants vs. needs” game, in therapy or elsewhere? Last year I was in a therapy group setting. Everyone got a pencil and a piece of paper. Make 2 columns for Wants and Needs, and just start listing each of our wants and needs as they came off the top of my head.
I had a few needs, like food clothing shelter and companionship. At first I couldn’t come up with any wants. So then it was time to put our pencils down. We went around the table, people were rattling off their wants and needs.
Some people had some great examples of wants and needs to share. So I was penciling in some of the good examples. Then someone said that one of their needs was “life.” Automatically I added “life” to my list of needs because I didn’t want to draw attention to myself as a suicidal person. But “life” didn’t belong in my needs column. I don’t think it even belonged in my wants column.
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I understand, but without life you can’t get any of your wants or needs so your just left with nothing.
Hmm I’m not sure that you did understand.
Without life I won’t have any wants or needs.
life is harsh and cruel everywhere, and the wants and needs are just words and false feelings woven throughout our lives, it’s the pure manner of living…. but then where can we freely live purely off the good of this world if there is so little. So then why live a life when almost everything that surrounds you is filled with false wants and needs, so then death can bring you to that peace and infinite nothing that is whole and empty in so many ways. Living is so hard; but we can see the small good left, and spread it, and forget about the wants and needs and the bastardity of the world and focus on what really matter, and what living feels like and is. You are a great and unique soul like no other… always keep that in your pocket