– Should you write a letter or leave without any last words?
– If you should write a letter, what should you mention to lessen their foreshadowed guilt?
– Should you end up missing, aka don’t let them see your inanimate body?
– Should you cut ties with them in advance?
Just curious concerns. Â Want to know your opinions and why you feel that way. Â thanks
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Unless your family cares nothing for you, there’s no way to leave without causing significant emotional grief.
Going missing will just give them more grief.
Cutting ties in advance is a common strategy and usually ends badly.
If you want to ease the blow, write a letter that frees them of any guilt regarding your suicide: tell them that it wasn’t their fault etc.
I will leave a note so that they’ll at least know my reasons why I did it, and I’ll emphasize that there was nothing they could have done and it’s not theit fault. I also plan to do it somewhere other than at
home so friends/family won’t be the ones to find me.
I will leave a note so that they’ll at least know my reasons why I did it, and I’ll emphasize that there was nothing they could have done and it’s not theit fault. I also plan to do it somewhere other than at
home so friends/family won’t be the ones to find me.
I wrote a letter to at least give them an idea of what caused me to make this decision and Let them know it was nothing they could have said or done to prevent it. I agree with Renobill in planning to do it somewhere besides my home as to spare them the trauma of seeing my dead body. I wont cut ties with them because I dont want them thinking I did it out of ill will /spite towards them. I want to cause the least amount of pain possible when I commit suicide.I dont want them remembering me as vindictive or hateful
I didn’t write any notes when I tried to kill myself. I just couldn’t! It’s funny because when I’m at my worst I write a lettter to myself, and usually it makes me feel better for 5 minutes…
But I think that if you feel able to write a note, it’s better because it can explain a lot to others who you love and make them feel less guilty about what happened.
Hey stop! It’s ok God loves you. Hey I’m here for you and I love you as a person! Don’t its ok just talk to me. God loves you and sent His Son Jesus to die for everyone’s sin so we can go to Heaven when we die! But hey! God loves you more than you can imagine. It’s hard to see I know but listen if you give your life to Him He can change you He loves you He will help you through whatever. Ask Jesus to forgive you of your sin and become your personal Savior but understand that He is the only way to Heaven and to chane your life for good. Ask Him to take you to Heaven and to come into your heart! God loves you so much that He gave his Son for you to live! John 3:16, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.†Hey the bottom line is just trust God and believe in Him and that Jesus took everything we’ve done wrong and will do wrong BECAUSE HE LOVES YOU! I love you too as a person but God’s love is more important. Hey txt me 317-759-4810. Names Jarren
that’s the problem theres no way around causing extreme emotional grief to your loved ones with suicide. I want to end my life, I’m always held up out of sympathy for my adoptive family, trying to spare them the hurt, wishing there was some other way this could be done. there was a boy chris we used to know committed suicide by car wreck. from the outside looking in his family has taken his death remarkably well. I think that’s due to their religious beliefs they believe they’ll see him again in an afterlife, and partly because they saw this coming a long time before it happened. I think anyone that does commit suicide should leave a detailed letter behind for their loved ones explaining the reasons why they did it. That will spare the family members the guilt that comes from confusion of not knowing why you left them. another thing for suicides, is take the time before hand to organize things, clean your room, throw out junk….don’t leave those kinds of tasks behind for someone else.
how will telling them that it is not hteir fault lessen their grief.
their loss would be theirs till the day they die… could you kill yourself with that kind of a burden hanging about u?
It probably wont lessen the grief but it will help them heal. At least them knowing they It isnt their fault helps more than leaving and saying nothing.
I believe if anyone is going to kill themselves, leaving a note to anyone is useless cuz words will only confuse the matter. Cuz by killing ones self, that person has chosen action that speaks louder and clearer than any words left behind. Cuz if one person really wanted to kill themselves, there would be no thought of this world or anyone in it. “Who cares” is the main idea.
I always imagine that leaving a letter would be for trying to stir sadness in the living people one leaves behind.
How will words confuse them? Even if they think I was crazy at least they would have an idea of what I went thru. Just because people kill themselves dont mean they didnt care about their family and to say that is so disrespectful to them. They just couldn’t deal with life and its tragedies that doesn’t mean they have to go out with a final “fuck you who cares” mentality. I am going to leave a detailed note telling them my reasons and that they could have not done ANYTHING to prevent it.
no way. not leaving a letter would create so much confusion. leaving a letter you can at least explain why to a certain degree and not have them feel as bad. id rather leave a letter and set the story straight than me leaving nothing and having people fill the void with conjecture.