here is the story about how i lost the love of my life.
i started working at my job a year ago. at first, it was tough because i wasnt used to really socializing around. but after a week, i had managed to make a few friends. one of them was a guy that was short but very cute. he would always greet me with a smile and a warm “hello!”. for the next few months, he became one of my closest friends there. he gave me his number and we would stay up late at night having conversations about life and work and random things friends would talk about. i started to develop a crush on him, but i knew nothing would happen because he was older than me and in a relationship. a few months later, he broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years. he told me she wasnt his type anymore and he had feelings for someone else. thinking it was me, i tried everything to be perfect around him. but, i later learned, it was never me. i spent the next weeks upset and eventually, we stopped talking. i met a new guy and started dating him. he always made me happy, but never as happy as they guy from work made me. we broke up a month later because i found out he had another girl besides me. crushed, i called into work the next night because i was too upset. i had told my best friend everything that happened and as she tried to make me feel better, i had spilled to her my feeling for the other guy. she said she had an idea and hung up. the next night, i sat on the couch all night and cried over love movies. just as i was about to go to sleep, i got a call from the guy at work telling me he liked me. i couldnt believe it. so i jumped at it and told him i liked him too. but, he had already known. my friend went into work and told him everything i told her. though i was ticked at her, i was happy at the same time. for the next month, me and the guy at work went on dates and talked all day and all night. on one date, he even kissed me! i went and met his parents and one day, he bought me flowers and asked me to be his girlfriend. i freaked out with excitement. for the next 3 months, we had the best relationship i had ever been in. no fights, no problems, absolute bliss. one night after a date, he walked up to me and held my hands. he looked into my eyes and said the words no girl wants to here. “i cheated on you and i love you, but i cant do this anymore” he had cheated on me like my last boyfriend and just left me. now i am here, its been a month and my heart is broken. he still loves me, but he doesnt want me back. how am i supposed to move on from all of this?
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Well hello there, dear starnger.
I am so sorry to hear this and my words may not be a comfort to you but be thankful that he cheated on you with one girl. And if this would make you feel better, the love of my life cheats on me with every girl he knows and it hurts so bad.. I know how you feel and all I can say is that you should get your shit together.
Relationships are one of the hardest things to deal with in life. Some guys are jerks, they are with one girl but its not enough. Others are good, they are in love with a girl and happy and thats enough for them, they wouldnt cheat because they are happy and wouldnt want to hurt the girl. I guess you just have to keep trying, if love is what you want and lack of love is what is making you sad than just keep trying. I believe its much easier for a girl to find a guy then vice versa. Jump right back in, but use caution so that if it does happen again and odds are it might, you arent as hurt. You have experience with heartbreak now. Heartbreak goeas away, it takes a few days or weeks but once you meet someone new it goes away forever completely.
I don’t know if you are a guy or a girl steve but please cut this crap! We (girls) are so done with your guy shit.. why is it so bad for you to be in a relationship with one girl, to love her and honor her? why is it so difficult for you to have such thing called commitment? IT SUCKS!
@Unknown 2:
Uhh… unprovoked attack, much?
What crap? Steve didn’t say anything about it being bad to be in a relationship, or anything about commitment being difficult for all guys.
yeah unknown, all i said is it seems that there are 2 types of guys and i happen to be the type that would love to have a friend, partner, relationship. Maybe I didnt make it clear or you misunderstood.
and Steve is usually a guy name
Regardless of gender, those who are more appealing, tend to have more options, get more attention, and have a harder time with commitment, for the simple fact that they have numerous options. When we have lots of options, it’s easy to say “this isn’t exactly what i want, i’m going to try something else.” When you only have but a single available option, it’s usually better to make the most and best of that one option, even if it’s not exactly what you want.
If you would not pick yourself as the best option, then it is likely others wouldn’t, and you shouldn’t expect them to settle for a less desirable option than something that might be better for them, if it is available.
People get caught up in the moment of feeling good, and don’t look ahead accurately enough to realize that they can’t keep the promises they might momentarily feel like making.
Sometimes, you might think someone is great, at first, but the more time you spend getting to know them, the less you like them. You can’t stay with someone you don’t like, or someone who just isn’t right for you, just because leaving will hurt their feelings.
That makes sense to me. Back in the 90’s i went out with a girl and I would come home and think of things like marrige but the longer I stayed with her the more things she did that bothered me like not trusting me and being to clingy. Looking back I wish I would have just had patience and kept her but hindsight is 20-20.
I didn’t want to seem rude, but this is the truth.. Guys are more likely to have fun than to be in a real relatinship, they are never serious and this fact usualy hurts girls.. We’re human beings! we have feeling for god’s sake!
@ Unknown 2: I actually gave up on relationships about ten years ago sporting the exact same argument, only exchanging the word, “guys,” for “girls.”
@Unknown2:
BS. Maybe *the guys you are most likely to notice, are “more likely to have fun” (how is this wrong?), but that only indicates that you only pay attention to certain guys, not that “all guys” are less likely to appreciate a woman.
I just love it when people don’t even realize they are supporting my argument with their counter response.
The truth is as i previously stated: people who have better options, usually take them. People who have lots of options, usually want to try them all, before choosing one as their favorite.
I Think You’ll Realize There Are Greater Things To Be Worried About Than To Be With Someone. I Know This Really Sucks, It Happens To So Many Wonderful Women And Even Men. I Pray That You’re Using This Site As A Forum And Not A “Cure For LIfe’s Pains” Like Suicide. I Don’t Know Your Age But I Know You Have A Great Life To Live With Friends And Family That Love You. Take Advantage Of Their Support Right Now. Also, Take Some Time For Yourself, You Don’t Need To Get Into A Relationship Right After One Ends.