So the guy I posted about earlier? Yeah, he likes me. He also likes this other girl we work with. He wanted to know if I’d be offended if he took her and I out, at separate times, just to see who he liked more. At first I didn’t care, but now I can’t help but think that the other girl is probably better. She’s closer to his age, 21, and she most likely knows what she’s doing when it comes to dating. I don’t want to screw things up anymore. To top it all off, this has just made me even more depressed.
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oh screw him. What a douch if he valued you above all he wouldn’t try to play the field. Forget him you deserve better.
don’t go out with him. If he wants you, that will make him want you more if you put yourself in a position of more value.. otherwise he’ll lose respect for you
sounds like he only wants to use both of you…. Do not expect an honest / serious relationship from this guy. He is not ready.
IMO….
Whats wrong with him being honest? he said he wanted to take each of you out to see who he liked more….where is the problem in that?….he isn’t obligated to anybody…..women do that same thing all the time….how can he make the best decision for himself by blindly choosing someone?…..if you all were in a relationship and he said that then I could see why he was being called a douche and stuff…..He was even considerate of your feelings by asking you would you be offended….hell he could have just did what he was going to do without asking you at all….. if he picks the other girl so be it…you guys can still try to be friends….but if he picks you then you’ll know its because he likes you more……
It isn’t about “knowing what you’re doing when it comes to dating” just be yourself….you can’t do anything more than be yourself. How will going on a date with him screw things up even more? what harm will it do?
If he says he likes her more that doesn’t mean he likes you any less…..so don’t let that hurt your feelings if that is the case….if he tells you he likes her more be cool about it …. even if you are hurt don’t show it be cool and tell him you all can still be friends….There is nothing wrong with dating different people to find out who you like more and who you’re most compatible with…..as long as he isn’t trying to have sex with you and her then its fine…. you have to remember he is your friend right now….not your boyfriend
A better way of wording it would have been if he said he wanted to see who he has more chemistry with.
There are other guys out there. It’s up to you. Personally I don’t like the feeling of competing with someone myself. If I don’t hear about anyone else, fine, but as soon as a guy mentions that he’s ‘sort of seeing someone,’ I’m out. No way am I going to be the ‘other woman.’ Nobody is worth that hassle.
If you work together this could be awkward for all of you. If I were in your position I would decline his offer and keep my sights open for someone more available and whom I do not work with.