I’m new to this but things are getting bad at the moment so I thought I would use all the help I can get. If anyone’s reading this I’ll give you a bit of information about me…
I dont tell tell anyone about my problems anymore, I tried to tell my mum and she got so angry, I felt like I was burdening my friends by telling them and they all thought I was crazy.
I don’t know what I’m doing with my life anymore I’m only 14 and I’m expected to have planned  my life out already! One thing I do know is that I need to loose weight, A LOT!
My life goals right now are
– loose weight
– be pretty
– dont eat so much shit
– get friends
-be happy ***
im constantly worrying about if people like me or what I look like and how everyone sees me, it’s a 24 hour thing even around my mum…I hate it but I just can’t stop.
hope things get better soon
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Hello happybutsad. I understand how your feeling. I really do. It’s good to want to be healthy. So if you feel that you need to lose weight to be healthier, go for it! But if your only looking to lose weight to please others, don’t. I know you said that you can’t help it at the moment. But your worrying about pleasing others too much and not yourself. Are the goals you have above actually YOUR goals, or are they just goals you perceive others would have for you. Think about that for a moment. Don’t let other people dictate your life for you. Even the ones that are just trying to help by dictating your life can hurt more that help in the end. I let people control my life and felt obligated to please and meet expectations and all that. But the fact is. It was my life. And when my life crumbled because of it all, it only affects me not them. So find a way to please yourself, not others. Live for you. Don’t be afraid of who you are. If someone doesn’t care who you are, that’s fine. There are plenty of others out there for you to meet one day that will care and will be true friends to you.
Hello. First of all, welcome here and please feel free to write as much as you want.
Second of all, I think all of your goals could be summed up in 1. By losing weight, you’ll feel more pretty, right ? And by having healthier eating habits, you will lose weight. By feeling prettier and by being healthier, you might attract new friends (self-confidence tend to attract people) and then you might be a little bit happy (well, at least according your own definition of hapiness)
I hope though, that losing weight will make you feel more pretty, cause it’s rarely the case for young teenage girls. That’s where I would suggest you to work on your self-confidence. Not that easy to do, I know, but you can do it.
It’s good that you have goals. It’s good that you’re here. You accept that you need help. You’ll be just fine.
Accept that the world is a shitty place and look for those people who aren’t.
If you want to lose weight, you should do it because YOU want yourself to look good, and not because you want OTHERS to think that you look nice. People who care more about the outside than the inside can be generalized as ‘assholes’.