So one of my friends just told me he was cutting and contemplating suicide.(Join the club, right.) and basically wants me to be there for him to help him get better. How am I supposed to help him get better when I can’t help myself? He really doesn’t have anyone else to talk to. Suggestions? Comments?
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I really can’t give the best advice as I am going through similar things (and friendless, go figure lol) but all I can say is maybe the best thing right now is to just be there….you don’t even have to give him advice on “how to get better”. Just be there so you both can journey with each other through this darkness. Sometimes I think that’s all a lot of us on here need. Sorry what I said may not have made sense or have been any help at all. I too also wish I could help others even though I can’t help myself.
It totally made sense! Actually it puts a lot in perspective. Kinda wish I had someone there for me. This friendship is a little one sided.
Everybody wants something different. Perhaps everybody Needs something different. We don’t always know the exact thing that can pull somebody out of a pit. But what I’d say, is keep being the friend you always were. And if that slacked, just tighten the friendship. When people feel like they have a friend, it seems like they have more to live, be happy, or grateful for. Don’t say things like ‘cutting is bad’ and stuff like that. Everybody knows what is bad and good already. You can only attempt to create happiness that might pull the friend out of such a habit, if either of you view it as something that ever needs to stop.
The most important thing: Be “that one!” that will talk to him no matter what. 🙂
Thank you! And I relate to the cutting is bad thing. I will definitely take your advice.
Just be there. I know it sounds cliche but if someone commits just to being there, just physically being right there it helps in so many ways.