For those females that are considered UNATTRACTIVE by males, they do NOT understand how lucky they really are!
Beauty is NOT a blessing. It is now just one BIG CURSE!!
If one is a beautiful female, one will REALIZE that finding a straight or bisexual male that genuinely likes you for your mind and soul and NOT your body is very hard!
As for gay males, they do NOT like beautiful females as they are JEALOUS of them, since straight males( whom they highly sexually desire), WANT attractive females and NOT them.Thus the jealousy they exhibit towards beautiful females is what makes it IMPOSSIBLE to have a nice platonic  relationship with a gay guy!
A beautiful female is also MORE LIKELY to be a victim of sexual violence/harassment from males than those females considered ugly or unattractive!
Other females, especially,SELF-HATING CUNTS or the unattractive ones, simply do NOT want to associate with a beautiful female, as this will make them MISS the male attention they so CRAVE for everyday!
If one is a NASTY-ASS,SELF-HATING ***** of a female, whether she is attractive or not, she will stand a BETTER chance of having some male and female companions!………the world ADMIRES/DESIRES evil!
However, if one is a NICE, CONFIDENT,SELF-LOVING female, it is considered an “abomination” by society for her to have any friends, male or female!….the world SCORNS/HATES good!
Therefore, in today’s world, being a BEAUTIFUL female has become one BIG CURSE instead of it being a blessing!
The nice, attractive ones end up with NO friends, NO real, meaningful relationships and spend MOST of their lives somewhat ALONE!
NO ONE,EXCEPT ANOTHER NICE,ATTRACTIVE FEMALE UNDERSTANDS THE HELL OF BEAUTY!!!
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Personally, I don’t give two hoots how attractive a woman may be. The content of their character is all I need to know and understand in order to make a choice as to whether or not I want to pursue an interest in them, romantic or otherwise. I get what you mean about the nice, attractive females though (I am a guy, but hear me out). I knew this one girl in the army, had a beauty all of her own and was damn fine at her job, yet all the guys in my unit were busy chasing the tail of the…’beautiful’ husseys. I had a mind to date her myself, but she ended up with someone anyway. I’m not sure how that turned out either.
Well yeah, insightful post here, thanks for sharing.
It seems you are MATURE enough to truly understand what am saying here.
You can NOT have a good life if you are beautiful and nice!
One has to be beautiful BUT a *****/skank in order to “have it easy” with males!…..which means basically, one has to be willing to DEGRADE their morals and values so as to NOT care about being seen for more than their beauty!
Mhm… If you truly think this way, then why don’t you just fail makeup on purpose and get a bad haircut? It really isn’t difficult to make yourself look ugly if that’s what you want ;P.
i now wear glasses
I’ve noticed that people often have a tendency over estimate or underestimate their attractiveness. They seem to see themselves differently from how the majority of the outside world perceives them.
Check out the pictures people have posted of themselves in the media section of this site. Many who claim to be ugly are not, and I’ve met enough self described “beautiful” people to know that believing you’re attractive doesn’t mean that everyone else agrees with that generous self assessment.
That’s true! However, if one is CONSTANTLY complimented by others about their appearance, it does mean they are considered attractive!
Being beautiful and nice do NOT go together in today’s society!
If you’re beautiful, society expects you to be a *****/SKANK!!
But I don’t think that love is just about loving the attributes of someone. It’s more about loving that person you once fell love with for whatever reason. Pretty corny really, but I think that’s how it works.
“But I don’t think that love is just about loving the attributes of someone. It’s more about loving that person you once fell love with for whatever reason. Pretty corny really, but I think that’s how it works.”
Yeah, but how often do people REALLY KNOW each other, when they “fall in love?”
Almost Never.
That’s why you get all these trite cliches about “you never knew me” or “they turned into a totally different person!”
That’s because: people “fall in love with” their interpretation of a person (and/or that person’s confidence-trick misrepresentation of themselves), not the person’s actual and thoroughly understood, honest identity/behavior.
It takes a long time to really get to know someone… and meanwhile, you need to both enjoy looking at each other, if you’re going to spend the time required to actually get to know someone.
The world has LOST all understanding of what being beautiful or love is!
Most seem OBSSESSED with image and physical attributes and thus forget what really matters, that is, what is in the heart/soul and mind of someone
you think being a beautiful woman is hard, try being the most beautiful male! being perfect is almost too overwhelming.
alas, I have no fucking clue what I just read.
also, my valium is wearing off, it’s intensifying the hallucinations of what I consider beautiful.
Who knows the hell of ugliness?
Should I cry for the privilege of beauty, or should I relish in being a simple, boring, vanilla male ogre?
Being a beautiful male is much EASIER than being an attractive female! People do NOT hate you because of your beauty!
would you prefer being hated for being beautiful, or hated for being ugly/inadequate? I’m pretty sure the latter is worse, and much more limiting.
@Dawg: lol.
i think if one is unattractive, in today’s world, they are MUCH LESS hated than beautiful females! In fact, people do NOT hate some unattractive people for their looks. They hate them for some other reason!
“i now wear glasses”
and? lots of gorgeous women wear glasses. Glasses can’t make a pretty face less pretty. Glasses are just glasses. The face is still the same, regardless of what gear you put on top of it.
In fact… i know that some people find that glasses make a pretty face even more appealing.
i think the glasses i NOW wear make me look really dorky! LOL!…so i think the glasses have helped me somehow!
well… again, some guys can’t get enough of that “dorky cute girl” look.
All this talk of appearances has us all wondering…
What does she look like?
Maybe you could counteract that by making a new post telling us all about “who” you are, rather than the struggles of being really, really, ridiculously good looking.
OH PLIZ!!
i NEVER said i was ridiculously good-looking!…i just said am considered ATTRACTIVE!
and do NOT try to intimidate me to post a description of myself!
I don’t get you guys. Here everyone comes with some real problem, real pain.. It is a suicide project. And she gets the same shit from you like from the rest of the world…
She spoke about getting friends and meaningful relationships. Not about how easy it is to get sex or to be wanted, and have a bunch of people get attracted to you just for how you look like.
Why she should make herself ugly? Or pretend to be weird? Why ppl can’t see more than just an appearance. Nowdays you don’t need to be a sex bomb to have this problem. I have it too.. I don’t take care of my hair, of my nails, I don’t need to go for diets or exercise. I have never had to develop any sense of fashion. Really.. But whatever you dress, if you are pretty and nice guys like you, girls are jealous. You really NEED to be smart and patient to wait for the first impressions to go away to be able to see people who they really are.
Out of 10 guys that like me, and realise that i am not interested, 9 of them becone jerks afterwards for their hurt pride. Out of 10 girls I meet 9 of them will show jealousy and leave some kind of: i don’t want you here feeling.
for sure! for sure!
THANKS for truly feeling me!…….i had said before and i will say it again, in a SEXUALIZED world where beauty is OVER-RATED, attractive females really get it rough!…….it’s a NIGHTMARE if you are attractive and nice!
I swear when media portrays beauty, they show SEX,SNOBBISH ATTITUDES,SLUTYNESS,SKANKYNESS,BITCHINESS and so on!
it thus gives the impression that if one is attractive, they “need” to be this or else………be PUNISHED for not living up to life’s incredulous perception of beauty!
It is hard for pretty girl to relax!!! And just be friendly!
I personally did not care so much about these problems. But I totally get that you get sick of the world like that and just want to isolate yourself from meaningless relationships in any sense. It is so energy consuming. And you have to be always careful if you gonna hurt people.
I have done my best in this sense and got accused 100 time: either you are to tough, or you are too nice to give a fake hope to people, or you spoke to much or you spoke too little and you seemed too proud.
Pretty girls in a group of people get the most of the attention, and if you don’t know how to deal with it it is really hard. Every move and word you say is measured and always always people tend to criticize you.
OH MY GOSH!!….you really HIT the nail on the head!
a glad some of you here are TRULY getting my point!
“Out of 10 guys that like me, and realise that i am not interested, 9 of them become jerks afterwards for their hurt pride. Out of 10 girls I meet 9 of them will show jealousy and leave some kind of: i don’t want you here feeling.”
“…leave some kind of ‘i don’t want you here’ feeling.”
Oh, you mean like that same feeling you gave those 9 guys you didn’t want there, after you shunned them for not being attractive enough for you? And without really taking the time to get to know them?
Yeah that’s a bad feeling.
It sucks when people use superficial prejudice against you, and then complain that you’re the one being mean. Kinda like how you just described your own treatment of undesirable guys. You shouldn’t judge people unfairly and then complain about their negative reaction. And you definitely shouldn’t complain about being attractive, if you’re going around unfairly judging less attractive people, and then complaining about their negative reaction to it.
I should make a meme with the First-World-Problem theme, this totally fits.
How many times I wished I was this funny and not so pretty guy in a group. Nobody pays attention to him until he speaks.. And if you know how to make a joke everybody loves you. Just bc from time to time you make them laugh and otherwise you don’t bother anyone for being around. And without many questions everyone assumes he is a good guy.
Anyway.. This does not mean for others it is easier. Everyone gets their share of the cake. But pretty girls do too. And people tend to assume oposite.
this is so TRUE!!
@CDL: LOL! Do it.
Do you want me to get banned!?
“Everyone gets their share of the cake.”
Mmm… No. Everyone does not get their share of the cake.
I don’t even remember how cake tastes, but i see other people stuffing their faces constantly, as if they have an infinite cake supply.
That’s just it: you really don’t “get it.” You think “everyone has cake,” but you have no idea that some people have no cake, and you have no idea what a life without cake is like, or that such a thing can even happen to a person.
I can say that out of 5 people I was interested in, none of them was a great looking. Maybe one was good loking. One was avarage. 3 were for sure much below average.
I am not judging less attractive people. All guys are like this. Pretty guys are even more mean than less pretty. I guess they are not used to get refused.
The problem is that most of us most of the time look for friendships. Not relationships. You don’t want to kiss every guy you meet. Normally you want to have many friends and one partner. When you are pretty you get a lot of offers for partnership but you have to struggle for honest friendships.
That is EXACTLY what am saying!…..for those that are deemed attractive, having REAL friends is very challenging, almost impossible!
the DISAPPOINTMENTS are so many!
@CDL: No. I do not desire your banning.
@lostinstranslation:
I do understand where you’re coming from, and that you think “it’s harder for attractive people,” but it really isn’t.
Everyone has to struggle for genuine friends. But attractive people have more chances for “more than friends.” Having more chances/offers doesn’t necessarily mean more success, quantity doesn’t mean quality, but it does mean better odds. People like me get no chances at all, but still struggle to find genuine friends, because it’s just hard to find good friends. Many people are capable of concealing their ulterior motives or true intentions, for quite a long time. Aside from that, sometimes people just change (or rather, realize they had been going the wrong direction and prioritizing the wrong things… not exactly “changing,” but more like correcting themselves and ceasing to make the same mistakes they realized they were making).
Being pretty doesn’t stop anyone from learning to tell jokes. But being unappealing will stop anyone from being well-received by those they find appealing.
I don’t know.. The grass is always greener on the other side..
I am not saying I did not enjoy in some occasions to be the center of the attention. But when it boils down to important stuff it looks like it doesn’t really help.
Hence, as pretty and nice and smart as i am. Pride of my family and all that shit..
i am on this site looking for distraction so I don’t throw it all down the river.. At least not tonight..
Actually I kinda feel the idea you are imposing in your post has no apparent concrete grounds.
Like.. can anyone define beauty? How can you say that one possesses more beauty than others? Beauty is subjective.
I agree with the other comments up there.. you’re not “getting it”. Instead of complaining about being attractive, maybe you should complain about people not caring enough to get to know the real you, your characters, your feeling and who you are.
if society had NOT over-rated physical appearance and made it seem like it’s the “only” thing that should matter to a female, this would NOT be an issue!
do you know how many females have DIED on cosmetic tables trying to get make-overs?……you will be SHOCKED!
that tells you that it’s NOT me that’s “not getting it”!….it’s society that’s NOT getting that there’s more to a female than looks!
Beauty often gets a someone noticed, but many can sabotage that with their inner ugly (diseased thinking and neediness), and those things can energetically attract those who are toxic for us. I’m not saying their isn’t a downside to being attractive (excessive encounters, STDs?), but I think most people would still opt for it, even though beauty fades, and is therefore not a sustainable strategy.