Just thought I’d poll thoughts about this.
No note could create legal problems for others (i.e., wondering whether someone had a poisoning motive). The absence of a note may leave others wondering, which may be good or bad.
Leaving a note may be a means of providing reassurance or useful instructions. (I’m not talking about the kind of note designed to blame and hurt others.)
Thoughts?
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I’d leave a note telling anyone interested where the money for the new equipment for the band are,my lyrics sheets and my savings,and tell them to do whatever the fuck they want with them.
Also I’d tell them at the end to burn me into an incinerator then flush my ashes down a toilet…and I’m serious,not joking…
Interesting thought about burn and flush. I’m not sure how legal that would be, and anyone filling your wishes could face some kind of legal charge.
That’s the one thing I want to be sure of, I want to be cremated and my ashes scattered, I don’t want to be buried, no way. I must make a will or something to express this.
I have been pondering the same question lately. I have no family or friends, so they would probably find me pretty late, specifically when I start to stink (if I die at home). Should I explain anything? Is there anything to explain that could be understood by the happy masses anyway? So just yesterday I thought I could just leave this as a note: TA-DA!!! 🙂
I feel ya there.I got a family,but they act like I don’t exist,and we live in the same damn house…I wouldn’t be surprised if they found out I killed myself a week later,when they decide to go clean the attic…I once ran away from home 2 years ago,and when I returned home 4 days later they asked me why didn’t I leave my room for 4 days…I fucking love how invisible I am 🙂
They could be numb or just not wanting to show any fear.
LOL!
Well, i’d find humor in it.
You know, people around me have always been so insensitive… So I can imagine that those who find me will also display a similar attitude of indifference to my suffering if I list all the real reasons, so why not mock them a bit with TA-DA! Another possibility that occurred to me today was “Mission Accomplished”.
No note. The ones that really know you, if you have anyone that close, deep down they will know and understand what happened (yeah and they may be sad and feel guilty…) BUT the others though well that’s their problem. Let them wonder the rest of their lives about it.
I plan on leaving a note to explain the reasons for my death, whether they’ll care, I don’t know I don’t have much contact with my family but there’s something inside me that says I must leave that note to stop them wondering why and I know I’ll apologise for my actions just in case.
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What is death. How will you know your are dead. There is nothing after it. Only other person living will know you are dead. Note etc is bullshit. The only question in anybodys life should be whether to do suicide or not. Why continue. What is the purpose of life and are we really living. If you are not living your are already dead. Body dying or living is immaterial. Most people on the planet are already dead and unconscious.Killing the body has no meaning. It is not brave or cowardly act. Its immaterial.
A note can alleviate some of the need to have “everything in order”.
Dear nias,
Why don’t you write a note to family members or friends that may care well before your planned day? By doing this maybe there could be some assistance sent your way to help you overcome the issues that you face. This way you will see who cares and in the event you move on to another plane, others already know the reasons for your actions.
I have a brother but I have tried to talk to him but he changes the subject, we, as a family, were brought up not to show emotions, just bottle it up, he doesn’t want to know and some of the stuff about past bullying at work is to painful to talk to him about, he’s the successful one. To leave him a note while still alive, I’d be to scared, I just couldn’t do it.
Asking for help is more difficult then ending it? Maybe you could try asking for help in more abstract ways. Councillor, therapist, someone other than your brother.
Asking for help is difficult for me but, you are right, asking for help is easier than suicide even though I don’t always think so when my depression gets too bad. I did see a therapist two years ago but he dismissed my problem and paranoia but that’s just one opinion. I do have a number to call, a last resort if things get really bad but I haven’t reached that stage yet. I’ll see if I can find someone to talk to about myself before then.