Imagine your mother going upstairs, into your room and finds you dead, hanging from the ceiling fan. There is no going back. You just wanted to end the pain not your life. You hurt everyone that ever knew you. You didn’t just end your pain, you gave it to some els. It’s not just you that are wanting to end your life. Now it’s your younger sister or brother that you have passed these thought down to. They start to cut.. last week your mother found your goodbye letter, she unfolds it carefully while tears are running down her face. After she reads the letter she gives it to your father, he instantly beaks down into tears, was it worth it? Was it worth taking your own life? Giving all the pain that was inside of you to others around you?
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I see and understand your perspective, but then again some of us may not leave behind parents, family, friends or loved one after we pass on.
Remember alot of people here come from many different backgrounds so let’s abstain from assumptions and guilt trips.
my family doesn’t talk to me unless I talk to them first. no one does.
Like you lovemyshihtzu, my brother never contacts me, it’s always down to me but I don’t bother now, if I killed myself would he really care too much, Idk. Do you ever think how people around you would react to your suicide: friends, family, work colleagues, would it be just a passing event for them, a simple “I didn’t realise how she was feeling” then back to their life, situation back to normal; again, Idk.
more than likely yes. I just would feel bad for leaving my cats, my papa, and my god daughter
Same here.
I understand your perspective, but like Koji said, not everyone comes from the same background.
So yeah, pretty much Koji’s comment…
Yea like others said, I get your perspective, but for many of us here, we have nothing to hold us back any longer. We may not be close to our family anymore, or even if we still communicate, we know that they would be better off without us… we make their lives hard and while they will grieve for us for a brief period of time, they will move on. Life will continue with or without us and quite frankly, for many of us, even if we have to lose the one person we still hold close, it’s worth it to escape this miserable/meaningless existence.
There is as much selfishness in the griever as there is in the one being grieved. After all, you are asking someone who is unhappy with life to consider your unhappiness first should she or he act on it. As someone who once tried to end my life, I would not appreciate that kind of one-sided bargain, let alone give in to it. I was unhappy, chronically unhappy, and I was missing the understanding, the support and the resources to cope. Most importantly, I was unhappy with the people in my life. My life is mine to take and it is the only thing that I had control over. They might be hurt had they found out but I was hurting long before them.
I agree Lsari! My mom told me I was selfish for trying to commit suicide, but I told her she was selfish for wanting me to live for her. “I don’t know how I will live without you”… Maybe you shouldn’t lean on me so much