He reconciled with me went for counselling with me while his restraining order was still on. He broke that and also moved in with me. He asked me to lie in the court so he could not have a record. I did that and the day judgment came out: all charges withdrawn, he left me.
So distraught over this. What am i suppose to do?
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What an asshole he betrayed your trust, your love, and then he kills your hope by betraying your forgiveness!! What do you do ?? NOTHING !! Let him go, you deserve better. It’s only the rejection that’s making you feel like you want him. If you can just put yourself first for one little moment you will see this. Hold your head high and take back the self esteem that tosser took from you.
Leave him, he’s a dick for doing that to you.
Although you technically broke the law by lying in court and confessing it online
Move on. He is losing out and his lies will catch up with him. Be who you want to be and that’s it. You control your life. You make your future. You have a bright one if you make it happen. I would say good luck but you don’t need it. Every moment that passes is a chance to change anything you want for the good or the bad. I recommend the good. People will let you down and disappoint you but that is a constant. You can’t let one person break you. Be stronger than that. Good luck.
How easy it is for people to make big decisions when they have nothing invested. It reminds me of people watching poker tourneys on TV where you can see the hole cards and everyone is a freaking expert. It’s not that easy when you can’t see the cards. I know, I used to play for a living, back when I cared about things like life.
But anyway, back to the lady’s post. Obviously she loves this man and wants to be with him. And from her description of the events, he seems like he’s not a very nice person. But she’s here posting about what she should do.
If she wanted to forget about him and find someone else, like was suggested to her here, she would have done it already. She is obviously in a lot of pain over this. She’s conflicted. Trashing him is not helping things. It probably makes it worse.
Yet people just open their mouths and just share their opinion without thinking of the consequences. I thought the point of this forum was to help one another.
Anyway, it just frustrates me to read stuff like that. Purely generic and shallow. So damn clichéd.
To the original poster: I understand your situation. I’m also in a vaguely similar situation myself. You love someone that doesn’t seem capable of loving you back anymore. Yet you seem, like me, to still want to be with them. No solution possible to this dilemma I’m afraid. I hope that, unlike me, you do find a way to solve this. Either he comes back to you and loves you the way you deserved to be loved, or somehow, someway you find a way to stop loving him and stop wanting to be with him. In my situation neither one is possible. I hope it turns out well for you.
You learned a hard lesson. But you’re lucky to be rid of him. He’ll get what’s coming to him in time. Some whore will rip his heart out then play with it for months afterwards.
Hit his ass up for alimony and whatever else you might have a legal right to.
Then, just as she’s running his heart through a meat grinder. You can run his bank account through one.
Good Luck!