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Hey Hun,

I just read trough your posts and it sounds like you’re having a pretty tough time.

You don’t have to be abused or go through some horrific experience to be depressed, so get that idea out of yor head, but I can hear your suffering and I feel for you.

I think one of your biggest problems is your sister, so I really think you need to find a way to reward yourself every time she says something bad or makes you feel bad, just to psychologically train your brain that every time she’s nasty it doesn’t hurt so much. I know your are trying to lost weight, but maybe there is something like chocolate that you have banned yourself from eating, and then the only time you are allowed 1 small chocolate (or one cube from a cadburys bar) every time your sister is nasty to you.

Only use their method for the main pain in your life, which sounds like your sister. I won’t work if you use it for other things as you naturally will find too many excuses and eat whenever you like an the reward isn’t there.

The reason you are putting on weight is because you’re depressed and makes it hard to even get out of bed. I can only say that the first step is the hardest, the further you walk out the house then easier it will become, but start with baby steps like just put on outdoor clothes and your trainers. No need to go out, but just preparing to go out. Put on some makeup too, just to boost the confidence. And do that for 3 days. In time, eventually you will want to.

It’s a slow and painful process – but what’s worse is having people around you that not only DON’T support you in this difficult period, but actually make a point of making it harder for you.

It’s not going to be easy, but learn to block out the negativity so your soul and mind can heal and you will get strong again. The rest will fall into place (losing weight etc, all will be easier once you control your depression).

Good luck Hun x