I hate when people tell me to be myself the judge me for it. I’m sorry i’m not perfect i’m sorry i have flaws, wtf am i suppose to do or be to be loved.
I think the key is that you are perfect and there’s no such thing as flaws. A flaw to one person is a blessing to another. People are just screwed up. They think, think, think and then overthink, which creates all kinds of problems. Everyone has their ideas and opinions on what is perfect, what is acceptable, what is a flaw. That’s why the thing is to accept yourself because you’re acceptance or love is the only thing that counts. You don’t need to be fixed. Believe it. Roll it around on your tongue, sift it through your mind. Nobody’s opinion of me counts but my own.
I recently told my United Methodist Pastor brother (who always signs everything The Rev. Dr. ______) “you don’t get to judge me. Unless I’ve broken civil or criminal law, your judgement of me is simply none of my business.”
I don’t fully agree with this-if people really were themselves, a lot more conflicts would happen. You need to learn to be the best you can be-learn good social interaction skills, get a better handle on your emotions, be able to let the small things slide.
There are many rules of communication we pick up as we get older. But don’t buy into everything people say, some of that advice is foolish and misguided. If you want to be treated a certain way by others, act accordingly. For example, I’m honest but also respectful and diplomatic. If people deal well with me, I do the same, if they try to insult or put me down, they’ll get the same in return-I don’t shy away from any battle. So then people get a good idea of what I’m like and treat me accordingly.
I agree newname. There are 2 pieces of advice that I hate to hear: 1. “Everything will be all right” and 2. “Just be yourself.”
And if you say both of those things to me in one breath, my face might just explode.
Certain catchphrases sound good but they don’t necessarily help. Like you said, I think it’s good advice to “be the best you can be” or “be the person you want to be”. Now, if you become the person you want to be and they STILL don’t accept you, then screw em.
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I think the key is that you are perfect and there’s no such thing as flaws. A flaw to one person is a blessing to another. People are just screwed up. They think, think, think and then overthink, which creates all kinds of problems. Everyone has their ideas and opinions on what is perfect, what is acceptable, what is a flaw. That’s why the thing is to accept yourself because you’re acceptance or love is the only thing that counts. You don’t need to be fixed. Believe it. Roll it around on your tongue, sift it through your mind. Nobody’s opinion of me counts but my own.
I recently told my United Methodist Pastor brother (who always signs everything The Rev. Dr. ______) “you don’t get to judge me. Unless I’ve broken civil or criminal law, your judgement of me is simply none of my business.”
I don’t fully agree with this-if people really were themselves, a lot more conflicts would happen. You need to learn to be the best you can be-learn good social interaction skills, get a better handle on your emotions, be able to let the small things slide.
There are many rules of communication we pick up as we get older. But don’t buy into everything people say, some of that advice is foolish and misguided. If you want to be treated a certain way by others, act accordingly. For example, I’m honest but also respectful and diplomatic. If people deal well with me, I do the same, if they try to insult or put me down, they’ll get the same in return-I don’t shy away from any battle. So then people get a good idea of what I’m like and treat me accordingly.
I agree newname. There are 2 pieces of advice that I hate to hear: 1. “Everything will be all right” and 2. “Just be yourself.”
And if you say both of those things to me in one breath, my face might just explode.
Certain catchphrases sound good but they don’t necessarily help. Like you said, I think it’s good advice to “be the best you can be” or “be the person you want to be”. Now, if you become the person you want to be and they STILL don’t accept you, then screw em.