I’m getting tired of seeing people writing down that they are going to commit suicides and look at the comments and seeing people say “good luck” “hope everything works” “never apologize, wish you luck”
Do you guys have any compassion or sympathy or even care about these guys??? Come on! It doesn’t matter if you know them or not. Stop them! Save a life for once, their life had meaning and you know it! Don’t just look away, they are hurting and are empty, be that person to encourage them to stop, don’t just read their suicide plan and leave as that, have a heart for once and help them!!! One friend can save a life
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I 100% agree. I always leave a positive message and try to bring that individual up from the state they are in. We have all been there or are there in some cases. Positivity can go a long way.
Exactly! I posted a video not long ago called “One Friend Can Save A Life”
I wish people on here could say something positive and at least help them out than just give them suggestions of suicide and supporting them that hopefully they succeed when they try to commit suicide. It breaks my heart /:
Like I just put in my last post, some people are so bitter with themselves they try to bring down everybody around them. You have to consider the source and ignore it. It’s the few bad apples in the group that stand out above the shiny apples which get left in the shadows, kind of like the real world we live in.
This world is dying and too many *** people are too…yes I know the people on here are at a negative state and when try are typing down that they are going to end their lives, the others that have a small Brian and negative out look don’t even help them out. I’m Doug my best right now to stop the ones that are trying to. Suicide rates are increasing and it’s just inspiring others to view suicide as an option, why? Becuase no one cared to help
Hi, I understand what you’re saying. Unfortunately when one is in a suicidal state of mind there is not much another can do. When someone is intent on committing suicide, they will. This site is somewhat anonymous so calling for an offline intervention is not possible sadly.
I think it’s best to wish them peace, show them that we care and mention something good about them. I know we can scream “stop don’t do it,” but it’s not going to make much of a difference. It’s nice to see that you care and want to be positive. I’ll try my best to give support to those that are suffering, but you have to understand the users on this site will make their own decisions.
It is inappropriate for others to write such comments. Suicide must not be encouraged. Even if you think you ‘mean well’ ( why would well meaning people wish luck with suicide anyway) do not post such comments as people will read it including the author perhaps…
may get the idea that suicide is just ‘oh well’ and not an important issue.
These people are already troubled most of the time and inappropriate comments may push them further off the edge.
If you don’t have anything helpful to say please don’t say it.
sorry i write weird i am not directing this at you just at people who are not helpful etc
I know but even though they will look at it and I have before saved lives from the Internet. It takes alot of time and talking to get them out of that stage. But that’s why there is hope. We need to show them and talk to them however long it takes to make them realize they are important.
Well, I do my best to not sound encouraging of someone committing suicide. I usually just try and think of what I’d want someone to say to me. I do my best to be as gentle as I can with the situation Hopefully everyone will see your post and work harder to be more careful with their comments, including myself. 🙂
Exactly what you said! And no hun you dot write weird at all. I think people on here who are encouraging the person in a way to view syicide as in option should grow a brain and help them not to commit suicide
At the same time the ones who look at suicide as an option may also be looking at suicide as being an option for themselves. So since it’s an option for themselves in their state of mind it is clearly an option in others at that point in time. Same time they could just be vengeful also, hard to say when it’s all just text online. I hope that makes sense.
Sorry, I keep replying to this post..haha I just find it to be an interesting discussion. I agree with what you said LuckybombAbCan, since I see suicide as an option for myself I feel hypocritical for telling someone to rethink their decision. I’ve been thinking about this for the past few days as I noticed a lot of suicide notes being written on this site. I think I’m slowly changing my point of view.
I myself have been leaning towards the thought of it again hence why I came back to the site after a year and a half. I do not tell anybody not to or to do it, clearly the choice is theirs. I will give them positive advise on how they can maybe improve things in their life, or maybe not. Either way I try to be positive towards them since I am in the same boat as everybody else and it would hypocritical otherwise.
You more or less articulated what my brain has been struggling to say after reading this post. I understand completely what theunknownxx is trying to say but I feel like I also see why it happens and that it may be somewhat inevitable on an anonymous suicide forum. I hesitate to judge one doling out the encouragement as I recognize that they too are in their own dark, private corner and probably really do mean well. But how can one’s sense of well-meaning not warp over a long period of time dealing with such unending pain? It doesn’t make it right and it’s an excellent post to have put up to discuss because it will open eyes to consider what it means and what it could do when one treats another’s suicide ideation with encouragement or indifference.
if we get suicidal people to reconsider, and to find something in life they will enjoy or find fulfilling (Life does not need to have a ‘point’. It is much better to see someone finding peace by staying alive and find something enjoying/fulfilling/companionship/hobby) any reason to live…. ANYTHING is better than suicide. Also some people need to realize potential etc.
i am suicidal myself…
well there are mental illnesses as well causing people to not think straight etc. I don’t know much about them…
but there is alot of things that may cause someone to want to suicide
You need to understand that some of us see death as beautiful, sweet, and liberating. But we are tormented by our biologically and socially instilled, crippling fear of death/suffering/failing.
Do you not understand that’s why some people lie in bed wishing they would just never wakeup? Just drift off into sweet, beautiful nothing with no more pain, no more hate, no more anxiety, depression, anguish, guilt. You may think the ‘good’ in your life is worth the bad, but not everyone is in this place. You need to grow up and be realistic and understand that for many people, things will never get better. This partly is why some people like myself are disgusted and sickened by the ‘encouraging’ comments.
Why do you care about “Saving a life”? As if life is something worth saving to everyone… to some, the idea of more life is more painful and unbearable than the thought of death is to you.
I find it more annoying that Internet white knights try to play the hero to satisfy their own ego. But that’s just me.
Are they satisfying their own ego or just being friendly? Then somebody like yourself comes by who is to bitter with yourself and just try to bring others down to your level?
I find it annoying when people like yourself come by and try to ruin our friendly conversation……..so please……leave us white knights to satisfy our own egos……..
Where am I bringing anyone down? Don’t take your problems out on me please.
I have always looked at it as everybody has their own reason. As long as it makes sense to them who am I to judge. Most times people who are suicidal will snap out of it and talk about their issues they are having. They just need somebody who will listen. At least that’s been my experience IRL and on here.
Some have a mental illness but how are we to know on here or to know if we are being played, that’s the problem online. One main reason why I don’t judge whatsoever.
Unknown, I get what you’re saying, and I know suicide is not the solution for everyone. Heck, it shouldn’t be a solution for anyone at all, but for many of us, we don’t want those false reassurances or hope anymore.
Some people on here come here in a episodic state of mind, that is, their current situation is overwhelming them and they want help and support to get out. They see suicide as a way out, but still have a hope and desire to live thus although they are speaking of suicide, they still want to fight.
For others, like myself, we’ve been at this point for far too long. When I kill myself, it will not be something that I suddenly thought of. It will not be something that I have not considered. It will be because quite frankly, I have no hope or desire to live, and I want it all to end. In that situation, I would not want someone telling me to continue to live, or to offer false reassurances, because quite frankly, it would just feel like they were telling me to continue suffering.
Like I said, in reality, in the “real world”, if you choose to say something, you are going to be locked up in a mental facility and forced to get “help”. If someone has really made the decision to end their life, and they want to know they are not completely alone and scorned by the world? Well… I’m not going to be the one to tell them they can’t do it.
Anyway, don’t really want to get into a ethical or moral debate about this, but my point is, yes I know where you’re coming from, but there are situation where I do not believe that it applies.
To each is own, ya wanna commit suicide I’m sure you have your reasons. Fukin “A” I back you up. Everybody has an opinion, if you don’t like or agree with another’s don’t read it, don’t dwell on it, maybe if it effected you that much kill yourself. This site is anonymous, people are miserable, that’s the world we live in. Shit happens!!! MISANTHROPY
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Didn’t mean to say that, sorry
I know what you mean but it’s not up to us whether they live or die the only thing deciding that is dhamma.
Yeah, it’s good to send positive vibes to people who’re contemplating suicide. But psychologically speaking, it’s hard to talk someone out of suicide. Well, some people are on this site to seek help but most have made up their mind. I’m personally not here to feel good. I’m here to inhale elixirs of negativity so I can transition peacefully. I do understand where you are coming from but not everybody is here to be re-assured.
I’m just trying to make a difference is all. I care about people who are trying to end their life, I’ve list a few friends to suicide and that’s when I began to do my best to help others and I have. I dated this guy Jo was literally about to put a bullet to his head, took me to hours to get him out of it, but I saved him. And everyone knows that life isn’t meant to be easy, mine isn’t easy, and ill admit, I viewed suicide as an option, but guess who was there to stop me? No one, I suffered alone and saved myself, and when I see others suffering, I want to be that person tht helps out their hand for them.
Hope is hope. Hope is a ***** but she’s all we got sometimes. So throw that ***** Hope into every post and intend for the best. Words carry inordinate amounts of power. Always be an encourager.