so what’s the big deal? I wish I were only attracted to people that I was emotionally linked to. It’s annoying getting a boner every time a half decent broad crosses my path. I’d love to be demisexual:
“a person who identifies as a demisexual does not experience primary sexual attraction but does experience secondary sexual attraction. In this model, primary sexual attraction is based on outward qualities such as a person’s looks, clothes, or personality while secondary sexual attraction is attraction stemming from a connection, usually romantic, or from status or how closely the person is in relationship to the other.”
I think you’ll find out over time what and who you are – and it can change. It shouldn’t be a problem if you are. A lot of my crushes have started the same way. There’s nothing unusual about it.
I don’t really see an issue other than feeling like you aren’t like everyone else. I might see someone I think is initially attractive, but beauty lies beyond the skin. If someone is an awful person or has no personality, they aren’t someone I’d want to even so much as hold hands with – and I wish so much for that. As much as I want to be hugged, I want there to be some emotion in it, to actually feel cared about, or it just feels hollow.
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so what’s the big deal? I wish I were only attracted to people that I was emotionally linked to. It’s annoying getting a boner every time a half decent broad crosses my path. I’d love to be demisexual:
“a person who identifies as a demisexual does not experience primary sexual attraction but does experience secondary sexual attraction. In this model, primary sexual attraction is based on outward qualities such as a person’s looks, clothes, or personality while secondary sexual attraction is attraction stemming from a connection, usually romantic, or from status or how closely the person is in relationship to the other.”
I think you’ll find out over time what and who you are – and it can change. It shouldn’t be a problem if you are. A lot of my crushes have started the same way. There’s nothing unusual about it.
I don’t really see an issue other than feeling like you aren’t like everyone else. I might see someone I think is initially attractive, but beauty lies beyond the skin. If someone is an awful person or has no personality, they aren’t someone I’d want to even so much as hold hands with – and I wish so much for that. As much as I want to be hugged, I want there to be some emotion in it, to actually feel cared about, or it just feels hollow.