I’ve been called beautiful by many people, yeah sure that’s good, um no it’s not. 90% of the people that have called me beautiful would just say that to get something out of me. They wanted to use me for nudes and shit, I thought that they really meant it, but the next thing they want is nudes. Women are not sex toys, and neither are men. People need to stop using other people, for something that they want. If someone wants something then just say it don’t make up so many lies to cover up for something that’s wrong. Don’t give someone compliments that you probably don’t even mean for nudes, if you want nudes you can search it up on the internet. Part of my depression is because of this. Don’t make me feel good about myself, for you to then ask if i can send a nude, and when I say no, you would stop talking to me and ignore me.
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I hated that shit in highschool
Well I think you’re beautiful. Even though I’ve never seen you. And I dont want your “nudes” I to use you. You’re simply beautiful imside and out.
I agree some people need to change
You probably are pretty or they wouldn’t ask for nudes. I’ve had that happen to me countless times, then I figured I was talking to the wrong people so I stopped visiting those sites/apps. The way to make any decision is this: think, “Would it benefit me?” if not, then don’t bother with it.
Btw, sending nudes will never benefit you. Even if it’s a boyfriend, if you’re not comfortable say no. They’ll just have to be happy with seeing you naked in person (if you’re at that level with them). If you don’t care that a nude/risqué photo may someday end up publicly on the internet (even if accidentally), then it’s fine to send to someone you trust. Otherwise, don’t.
Anyway, I’ve found that nicer guys don’t ask for nudes (maybe when you’ve been dating a while they’d be happy to receive them, but they won’t pressure you). Use this as a tool for discernment – you already know you’re beautiful, you don’t need a guy to tell you. So think about how HE entertains you, if he’s funny, interesting or whatever. That way if you do visit those kinds of sites, you can choose which men to block automatically, or if you’re texting men you’ve met IRL, you’ll know who is worth spending your time on (and possibly dating someday). Don’t let yourself be used, instead only do things that benefit YOU.
You’re just meeting the wrong people (i agree with nepheliad on that one). I do think that they wouldn’t be asking for stuff like that if they didn’t think you’re beautiful tho, i mean, why bother if you weren’t? plenty of porn on the internet if that’s the case (sorry if i’m being blatantly honest there, but that’s the truth). You might see yourself one way, but the rest of the people perceive you differently, so it’s pretty likely that you’re indeed beautiful in others eyes.
I wholeheartedly agree that people should just say things tho. One of the things that make me the angriest nowadays is when i can see a situation coming from a mile away, yet people try to disguise it as to not seem manipulative. Fun part? i’d probably do what they want if they’d just ask honestly (no nudes tho, those help no one).