Heya.
For some reason, I just can’t make friends :<
I can’t talk to anyone, and even if I do I’ll get ignored.
I feel so lonely in school T-T
I don’t think I’ll ever talk to anyone again, I’ll probably get ignored anyway.
Anyone might have tips on how to overcome this?
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Ummmm, Honestly I would probably recommend maybe turning to the internet for friends if you haven’t already…. Like yeah it doesn’t sound like it would be the same, but it’s fairly simmillar. And it sort of helps teach some important skills, and people on the internet are safe practice subjects if you mess up you don’t really have to deal with them in daily life. That’s really all I can suggest, that’s were I got basically all of my social skills from. Other than that, like general tips I have discovered: People generally like to talk about themselves, (even if they don’t like to blatantly do, they do) that doesn’t mean directly about themselves always (but some do) but about their other friends, family, classes, work, or whatever else is in their life. So I’ve found that generally asking them a few questions every now and then about things like that is always good, and also listening to their answer. Listening in general is important, like you really don’t have to respond all the time. If they ask a direct question then respond, otherwise just listen, and I would also recommend remembering what they say, I’ve found that people seem to appreciate it when you remember things about them (it also has the benefit of giving you material to use against them if you have an argument). And of course be nice, and patient. And just find people that don’t ignore you, and if you are easily ignored just start by isolating your targets. Like working with them in a group for a class thing is a good idea. Also if there are people at your school that you notice sort of stick to themselves, those can be good targets too…. Just like hunting go for the weaker of the herd. Also friends take a lot of energy, so be prepared for that, find people who are worth that energy. And really don’t give gifts or anything, that never leads to good places trust me people will stick around just due to that, and it’s like bribery basically and when you run out of resources you will lose those people (Note: I mean don’t give gifts right away, like with close friends it’s generally fine every now and then). I recommend taking my advice at face value, these are all based only on my experience and observation and what has worked best for me so far, I do hope that they do in some way help you, and that you find some friends. Good luck ^_^
Mm okays, I’ll give it a try tomorrow!
But how do you approach them in the first place? What do I say? For me somehow I turn the conversation into an awkward one before I even starts. Do you ask for their name or…?
And it’ll be kinda awkward because I think I’m the only one in the class who doesn’t have a person to cling to, the rest have already established a circle of people…
And thanks for the advice ^^ I appreciate it!
I wish I was in my old class when I actually had people to talk to >. <
starting conversations is sort of difficult. I’m still fairly awkward there. Like sometimes I’ve found that just saying “Hi” and then something like “How are you?” and then just letting that conversation run for its like 4 sentences and being done is okay, like just small encounters with people on like a fairly regular basis is good too, you’ll eventually get to know them. Another good way is to observe them and notice if any have any form of clear interest that you either know about or are curious about, and just talking to them about it can be pre good. Like if they always wear band shirts for example and you like that band it can be a good topic of conversation, or if you notice that they always draw you can compliment their drawings and ask about it, or even ask if you can see more of their art. I hope it works out well for you ^_^ also it’s not always a process that happens overnight, so don’t give up too quickly. Good luck 😀
It is a hard thing, best scenario is finding someone with a common interest or something to relate to and go from that, but otherwise I guess just be and do you dude.
Hay
Hey
*raises hand* I would like to volunteer to be your friend. This past two weeks I have lost about 3 of my friend because they moved across the country. I’m more alone than ever at school now and its like no one wants to be friends with me and everyone hates me. Tbh i don’t blame them, I wouldn’t be friends with myself either..
Mm okays can I have your mail account? Or is there some other way you would like to talk?
Oh yea mine is akaichii40@gmail dot com so you can drop a mail there
Hi
Email me and I tell you how to do that. It’s easier than you think and you can start practising with these nice guys from SP.
I had the same problem when I was a teenager.
Mynicesuicide@gmaildotcom
Okays I’ll mail you~
Mm okays update:
So I managed to talk to someone during lunch
We were discussing aerobic respiration! it seems we both like biology
Well it’s a small step I guess, hopefully we can share more and maybe become good friends (yay)
Thancs everyone for the encouragement! Sorry couldn’t reply to y’all because for some reason I can’t comment with the phone I bring to school (age maybe)
(^o^ )/