Hi,
I need some advice. My best friend and I both have depression. We went out for 6 weeks and we loved each other but then he left me to push me away as he has been going through a rough time recently. I really care about him and love him and feel so helpless. He has withdrawn himself from all of his friends and is barely ever in school.
I really want to help him. I love him and am so worried about him. He’s 19. Any suggestions?
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I never knew that about him :/ Try talking to him.
Yeah problem is when i do he doesn’t reply. And i never know what to say.
@skysie, perhaps send him over to us? he has stuff he has to work out for himself, it is often easier to open up with strangers than it is to people we know
Hi, thanks for replying. When you say send him over to us what do you mean? And yeah I guess so I have experienced that myself. I just feel helpless.
@skysie, my pleasure. lol sorry i meant direct him to the sight, not, put him in a box and post him. you arent helpless, you are finding ways to help, not everyone would bother, ur a pretty good person
@procel, thanks I am not sure how to do that. Any suggstions. The only reason I am bothering is, is because I love him more than anything he was there for me for the last year when I have been through tough times and not only do I love him. Hes my best friend and I cant bear to lose him, I have already lost my family and I cant lose him and I want to help him as I know how it feels but boys seem to act differently with depression :/
just go, heres a website that might help, if i ever meant anything to you you will at least give it a try. slightly manipulative but if it works what harm, you wont loose him, this place is pretty good at saving people. lol boys dont act with depression, we man up and bottle that shit deep inside untill it explodes because thats what men are told to do, its stupid but damn hard not to do
okay will try it but he may just push me away. I don’t know he doesn’t really bottle it up instead he just never talks, stops coming to school and pushes all his friends away.
I sent him this.:
Okay so here goes i know it can be hard to open up to those who are closet to you so well i am on a website that is good to help people who are struggling with depression/ anxiety etc http://suicideproject.org/ its not just for suidal people its a site to help people struggling. you can be anaymous so noone needs to know who you are. Please dnt hate me for suggesting it i just hate knowing you are keeping it to yourself and feel helpless Its only a suggetion i have been using it for 2 years and it is reaally a life saver’ really hope this works
he didn’t reply, I wish I could tell him what he meant to me and I wish I knew what I meant to him, it hurts so much.
Maybe just see if he’d watch a movie or something together. No need for him to talk about anything, but you’d be there for him all the same…
could try, he may not come. I will try that. Thank you very much
so, obvs I don’t know the dude, and everyone I’d diff, but I get like that sometimes. Some friends gently remind me I should see ppl, some get a bit pushy. Either way I’ll need a little time. But knowing I’ve ppl there is never a bad thing.
Also, sounds like he has at least one amazing friend.
Yeah I have tried to remind him that shutting himself away wont help. Yeah I would pretty much do anything to help. I miss him and just wish he knew how much it hurts me to have lost him and know hes struggling and he wont let me in or even be there for him.