To Airrie. To IamABuilding. To vho. To Soco. To Iwantpeace2.
To joeld. To AnnieBear. To Raven. To Fantajin. To Nathaniel_Morisawa.
To into_the_sky. To rivets. To butterfly1123. To whiskered-fish. To those I missed.
To ALL of you.
I urge you to watch this documentary. No, I am not here to “save” you.
I don’t come here with false promises or magic potions. All I have is me.
I am HERE4UOK.
I just want you to be more aware, more informed, to feel encouraged a little. Maybe. For a moment even. In a positive way.
Don’t let the tunnel vision of entrapment, the wall of people and circumstances around you, block your view of what’s out there.
And what’s out there, out here, is both negative and positive, yes, but I guarantee you, there is more good than bad.
So why do I volunteer in suicide-related support groups? I am no professional therapist. I’m no Psychiatrist or Psychologist, no “shrink”. So why? I’m just me. A father. A son. A brother. A husband. A friend. An acquaintance. A neighbor…
Still why? Well, I love life. I love people. Why? I chose to.
Please do not confuse your desire, your need for pain to end, for your struggles to go away, with wanting to end your life.
You’ve read or heard this before:“To end one’s life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.”
Cliché? Yes. But true. So true.
Feel like chatting? Just remember, who am I? I’m HERE4UOK
suesyd . nomore at gmail . co m
1 (800) 273-8255
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
UK
0800 068 41 41
PAPYRUS
It’s a voluntary organisation supporting teenagers and young adults who are feeling suicidal.
www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Suicide/Pages/Getting-help.aspx
México
suicidologia.org.mx/podemos-ayudarte/
Línea de Intervención en crisis: 01800- 290- 00- 24
De joven a joven: 01800- 713- 43- 53
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVSbrP678Xk
9 comments
Thanks for sharing this 🙂
I am always amazed by how some women can be so gentle and empathic (the presenter). It is pretty awe-inspiring to me, since I feel like I am the opposite, an insensitive narcissist.
All in all a very touching documentary.
@muspelhem
Glad you liked it. It is inspiring, but one of the things I enjoyed the most about it was learning, no scratch that, REALIZING some of the details of the effects of a suicide in a family, in the lives of those around us.
Feeling like an ‘insensitive narcissist’ may well be just a way to describe your unnoticed defense mechanism. That may be your shield. Not much wrong in being like that, muspelhem. There’s all kinds of people in the world, and the different types of character is what often times brings a balance, much like white is to black and gray is born from the mix, with all the color saturation levels depending on how much white or black you add to the mix. A little red, a little blue and voilá, that’s life.
Take care 🙂
There are some cultures that believe that dreaming is every bit as real as this waking life. What happens when we die? The grief, sorrow, and pain people experience when someone dies, for any reason, is because they think they’ve died and left us. We were very attached to this person, so, it causes pain when I think someone’s left ME forever. The pain we feel is not for that person who died, its for ourselves. ‘How could he leave us? Why did she leave us? I should have said this or that or done this or that to keep him here. Why did he cause me this pain?’
Perhaps if we understood death we’d realize he never did leave us. This physical existence wasn’t working out, so, he just transitioned to another. There really is no death, no birth. Buddhist have known this for thousands of years as have other cultures. but this is just my opinion and it means nothing to someone who’s lost a loved one and is struggling with pain and who believes he/she did something wrong to drive this person to suicide. This is a no fault life. Everyone takes responsibility for their own lives. anyway..>I ramble on…blah blah.
I guess no one really knows what’s the truth after we die or commit suicide.All those ppl r just guessing nd they hab absolutley no idea what really happens after we die. It’s like crossing those event horizons of the black holes… What’s beyond tht is a complete mystery
@into_the_sky
And it’s one of those mysteries I completely choose to stay away from resolving. But that’s just me. Those who now hold the answer to this question, may they rejoice in their newly found knowledge. Those of us left behind can only hope to attain that same knowledge eventually one day, when it’s our turn to switch the lights off one last time.
😐
@Randall
You sir have some very valid points.
I have felt both ways. One recently when I wondered if there may have been something else I could have done (RIP Blue Tinker Bell), and others where I knew it was out of my hands.
I do disagree with you in some degree though. Let me explain. While I understand that grief, and any emotion for that matter, is a result of how we perceive a situation, learning about somebody’s passing is different when we learn the cause of death was suicide. Not because they died, but the circumstance that lead them to their final exit.
When my brother attempted suicide, I knew there was nothing I could’ve or could’ve not done.
When a good friend of mine succeeded in his attempt, I felt sad, but not because he left us, but because he had lost the his final battle in the war against his troubles.
Yes, perhaps if we understood death better things would be different. But we won’t know for sure for a while, not for another century or more. Or less, who knows, the way technology is going…
Thanks for your comments Randall 🙂
Cheers!
Thank you I dont know how to thank you all I can do is text it
Your thanking needs nothing else. It’s perfect. And I thank YOU for it.
You are making me all emotional, god-dang.