The way my parents act towards each other. My dad trying to be in charge of the finances in the house. When he barley makes any him self. He doesnt even have a job just sits on his bloody ass on his computer about 98% of the time in his office. he does photography for a living. But he only does like 1 maybe 2 paid gigs a year. If lucky. If me and my sister ever need something like for school. were usually on our own or have to go beg for the money off of our grandmother or our mom. I work part time but I dont work this summer due to me taking a summer class from hell (which is another story all together.) If me or my sis say something about it to my dad it usually ends up in one big screaming match with me ending up having an emotional or mental breakdown or both. This is also a prime example of why i prefer to live alone away from this hell. It may get lonely at times but at least the suicidal and depression thoughts disappear for a little bit. Plus school, activities, and work keeps me distracted. At least i wont alone be roommate wise this year. Me and my little sister are gonna be roommates. yes it is a weird position. But honestly right now at home it is her that’s the only reason why my sanity is still intact. Also the reason why i haven’t tried to kill myself cause i know she would be lost with me. She’s my best friend my other half.
Things I would do if I got married:
1. keep our finances separate.
2. Try to work things out without yelling and screaming at each other. Not having any regrets later.
3.If your not happy with the way hes treating you don’t be afraid to speak up or leave if you have too.
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So basically you don’t want to get married because you don’t want to get stuck with a loser like your father. Well just make sure not to marry an unemployed photographer lol. Being poor sucks. I am sure that is a frustrating situation, having to do without certain thimgs because of lack of money. Especially feeling like your father isn’t contributing a fair amount. All you can do is to keep doing what you are doing get your college education, get a job where you make enough money to support yourself and move out.
Having those problems with your family does not mean you will face the same issues with your husband. They say marriage is a lottery ticket. Maybe you are lucky or maybe not. But if you meet and choose the right person than you can have a wonderful life together. Just keep your eyes open, maybe he is the guy you meet next.