So annoyed my hubby told me that If I don’t get help from the mental health team that he’s going to try and get me admitted. Can he do that? I flipping hope not!
Maybe this is just the universe saying you must go now? I know for certain I want to die and definitely don’t want to end up in the unit again, but what if my attempt fails? (I doubt it unless I get caught) It could possibly happen as I’m going to have to do it while he’s sleeping because he says he’s not letting me out of his sight from now on.
I’m now a prisoner in my own home as he says if I leave he will call the police and say I am at risk grr is there anything I can do? I feel trapped.
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It may be possible if he can convince them that you might harm yourself or others. Given that he’s your spouse he’ll also have more credibility-it’d carry more weight.
If you plan anything always think it through thoroughly. Consider the outcomes/consequences of sharing your plans or thoughts with others if your intentions are serious.
On the other hand have your considered your spouse could be right and therapy could be helpful for you? Might be worth trying.
It’s very likely he could have you committed since he is your spouse and you are actively suicidal so there is warrant for it. Although it is always your choice to make in the end, is suicide something you really want to go through with knowing you’ll be leaving your husband-who clearly cares about you and wants you to get better very much if he’s demanding you to get help-behind? There are always other solutions you could try and one of them could end up helping. It’s something that should thoroughly be thought through.
Yes he can do this. You should take charge of selecting a therapist or impatient program, because once he makes the call you loose all your options.
I’m sorry to hear it has come to this. Both of you must be under terrible stress.
I don’t want to live anymore, he knows I self harm and starve myself and how unhappy I am.
The last time I was in the unit they told me if I carried on self harming or tried another attempt on my life then the consultant said he would section me for 6 months so either way even If I go in voluntarily I will be there for a long time.
I am not going to give up I can’t live like this anymore and I know he loves me dearly but even If I didn’t kill myself he would end up spending most of his life in and out of hospital with me sleeping and sitting on a hard cold chair most days, pushing me round in a wheelchair, caring for me, losing his career that’s no life I want for him.
I don’t think therapy can help me, unless they can rid me of my health problems and I know that’s not going to happen anytime soon. I would try If I thought it would change anything.
Yes your housband can do that. I realy know what you are going through now, because it almost happened to me once too. I think living for others is never a solution, people shoudl never ask someone to stay because of them. In facct htey ask yu to suffer because they don’t want to be sad, that’s selfish. Real unconditional love means your heart will be broken, but you will accept what its the best for the one yu love, even if that is suicide. But the idea yo are forced to do it fast now is awful, i realy now that feeling. I wish you all strength to do what you chose to do, i will nevr say things like please stay, because i wished i had the courage to do what you ae planning ot do now. I just hope you will find peace finally, and if not, maybe we’ll meet at that place later.
I hate to be rushed but there’s nothing else I can do, I don’t blame him he’s upset and he doesn’t think I’m thinking rationally because I’m harming myself, but what he doesn’t understand it’s what’s been stopping me from doing it over the last few weeks.
Thanks all for listening to my rants and maybe even my last thoughts.
Where do you live? The law varies so much from country to country (and somewhat state to state). I don’t know of anywhere that anyone besides a designated authority can have someone held. Has your husband thought of the consequences to him of telling you that you cannot leave? Again, I don’t know where you live, so my word is in no way intended as legal advice.
How are you today? Can you please try to visit me in my dreams if you reach an afterlife? I realy want to know what it is like.