Hey everyone hope your all doing well. So today was another lonely day but I already knew that was gonna happen I’m sure we can all relate.
So I was trying to meet someone all day today with zero luck While shopping for food or even coffee drive thrus I was trying. Than I officially decided to take 1Fine days advice and so I opened a Match.com account got the subscription going but again with zero luck. I posted this picture of me and a few others as my profile.
I messaged a lot of girls that were “Online” I did it nicley, carefull and casually I messaged them. but of course none of them replied except for that last person that I had messaged where out of frustration I wrote “WTF” she was the only one to reply and she was very judgmental and unhappy despite me trying to reason with her on it I really didn’t think she would reply. Oh well thought I’d share that I tried.
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Sorry about that, sadlife. I’ve never been on a dating site, but at least you don’t have to worry about some random guy in a foreign country trying to scam you out of your money! Anyway, I’d give it some more time. Me hopes you’re more successful in the future.
Thanks and I’ve read sad horror stories of people that do that not only foreigners but locals that meet online and ask for money. Tragic and I was a victim of a Romanian online scam from an that was a fake I don’t want to say how much just yet but I plan to post it tomorrow I hope lurkers can see it to I’m sure there will I got everything with detailed pictures and some emails took place around September of 2009 it was before I bought the Mercedes I was 18 and I wanted to purchase a 07 335I BMW but like I said I can deal with my mistakes but dealing with my mother and fathers(my dad passed away in 2008 left a load of debts that my mom took on as I head of the family followed I was 17) problems with that house and being single is more than I can bear.
Hi sadlife, I think for your profile picture you should change it to one where there is a nice background maybe with your hat off. Have some one take a picture of you so you can be looking at the camera with a nice smile. I think you might have better response if you don’t use a selfie shot in a restroom. People like to be able to see a person’s eyes so no sunglasses either. Pictures of you doing activities you like too are good cause it gives them something to connect to like the beach or a picture from a place you’ve traveled to or even a pet. It kind of draws them in and gives them something as in icebreaker for starting conversation like say you went to Italy and have a picture of you in front of a major tourist attraction and the girl likes to travel and wishes to go to Italy… that might attract her to if she likes to travel and sees that in common with you.
And also it can sometimes take some time on those online dating sites for people to warm up to approaching a profile try to be patient. Just my 2 cents here as a woman and good luck!
@ Jadedjewel Thank you for the reply so a picture with character huh. Well I have a cat maybe he can help me out and I’ll have my little brother take some pics. Yeah I was at Starbucks and I saw how tall the mirror was and the tiles looked like a decent background cover. But this time I’ll try it at a restaurant or at a cove lake. And my cat will have to help out all that food and litter that I buy him especially waking me up 5am to feed him and I get up. And hats off no shades thanks my best friend that lives in Kentucky met his girlfriend from match.com. they are still together after 7 years I don’t hear from him much though but I still consider him as my best friend.
Yep it can work. I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for a few years and I think they met on Match too. I personally believe it’s more about who you meet, not where you meet. I have seen both good and bad experiences with online dating…. it’s a crapshoot just like all the other ways. Hopefully you will meet someone really great.
Hi Sadlife, that’s very good news. But that is only one day out of thousands of days tens of thousands of days of your life. So at least you got the ball rolling but don’t quit now. You just need to tweak some things. Like Jadedjewel said pictures where you’re doing things like you posted the other day of yourself on the bike doing tricks. But your main picture should be you looking friendly and maybe smiling if you are able to.
Then when your first talking with these girls you don’t want to say WTF. Because they may think that you have a bad temper. So you just want to seem like you said calm and casual. And expect nothing until it happens. Otherwise you’re going to get disappointed and then you’re going to be thinking WTF.
And just be yourself you’re very nice share your hobbies like you share with us here and I’m sure you’ll find someone. I’m glad you’re starting to reach out though that’s a good start
Hey 1FineDay yep I went on I’ll update my pics maybe tomorrow so my pictures look to plain alright I’ll try smiling too even though I rarely ever smile. I think this is the first time that you seen me show myself lol
Sadlife yes you’re cute and you come across like a good person in your photos so you will get a girlfriend it’s about getting a nice girl
Carlos might be right I’m 36 so match.com might not be good anymore
Maybe okcupid is better now I really don’t know but try everything til you meet the kind of girls you like
I’m very glad for you, it will happen when the time is right
Did you tell about your hobbies like you tell us like the biking and anime hobbies?
Thanks:) I left the hobbies part blank maybe I should add the picture of me doing that trick on the bike good call and once again thanks a lot I’ll try.
Thank You for sharing yourself with all of us here
@ 1FineDay thank you soo much for all your support and everyone else’s. I updated my profile pic. I added that trick on the bike and I added a picture of me and my three little niece’s. You guys are right there is a difference
SadLife dude You are actually kinda cute, try tinder or hot or not. Match.com is for grandparents. Also, ost of the people on that app are just trying to judge and get compliments. 😀 You be you and stay awesome, start working out and with time they will start coming. Dude if you have a hobby and start doing it a lot it gives you a great conversation holder. I admire you for getting ut of yor comfort zone
Thanks for the compliment 🙂 I have tried pushing just like this before in the past but I plan on ending everything in a month or two most likely my posts maybe seen so my family will understand the reasons but before that I plan to go all the way with not giving up unless I’m absolutely sure that I can’t do anything. Because I’m about 85 thousand in debt and I make about $400 a week so I can’t even keep up with credit card minimum payments. I owe my uncle to all this because of my fuckin house DAMN IT and I also bought stuff since we were in debt anyways I was making the best it. It’s not fair for the credit card companies that I owe and my uncle so I will do my best to fight and do something about being single.
And the only reason I went to match.com was because of 1Finday and because my best friend he met his girlfriend there and 7 years there still together
I’ve never used a dating site but yeah don’t give up and I’m sorry your being treated like that. I myself have never used a dating site, only online gaming looool but most are obviously not nearby especially in my case,
Both have their ups and downs but I think if the person lives close to you its probably alot easier and that’s what those sites do list people nearby, easier because you can have physical contact and it will be easier and cheaper to move it offline when you like.
sorry for tangent
yeah but really please don’t give up
@ spectralgiraffe thanks soo much for the support and I won’t give up not just yet. Dating sites ate pretty fun soo many people I went through in still looking for that one
yup i hope you really find that one I’m hoping that your life will get better sometime
Don’t give up sadlife, there are good girls too who’d love to date a guy like you. You just have to look for a nerdy kind of girl like me 😉
@ BallerinaOfDeath thx that’s very sweet of you. I actually like nerdy girls I always seemed to appreciate the honesty from by being themselves and getting attention from them especially how diverse they are from most girl they really make a good friend.
If you use the same photo on this site and on other sites and someone interested in you does a google image search of your pic (to check if you’re catfishing) and it comes to SP and all this personal information about ending your life and being in debt that might not be good for the dating side of things unless you really want them to know about that stuff.
bruiseviolet – This is an EXCELLENT point. Be very careful with your pictures and personal info. Maybe shave off a few pixels from this picture, or use a different pic altogether on your dating site.
I am so so glad somebody said this. my stupid mind didn’t think about it at the time but I realize that its such good advice
Well you definitely do have a point and no way I wouldn’t want someone seeing this stuff on hers accept for you guys of course. I posted 2 of the same pics on match.com like I did here. But my username is sad life not Russ which is my name BTW. Still strong point I appreciate that.
Dating sites suck for both sexes. I went on tinder 2 years ago that one is just if you are looking for a hookup, anyone i’d meet would come over to chill and all they wanted was a hookup after a while I deleted it tried pof met a few people that had similar interests dated a girl for a few weeks a dude for about a month and then met the bf that I’ve been with for a little over a year we clicked, I told him about my past ( I was married for 5 years but was with the dude for 11 years it was the worst 11 years of my life but I had such self hate in the time I was with him I never had consensual sex he preferred to rape me while I slept and felt I deserved all the abuse i had tried to kill myself back then but the night that I had taken pills to do so he came in and forced me to throw them up not cause he didn’t want me dead but because he had just beat the shit outa me and if I died people would know what kinda monster he really was, I stayed with him another 6 months after that and then one day I just decided i need to leave and at that time it’s what saved my life I dealt with him stalking me I called the cops they couldn’t do anything cause he wasn’t harming me I tried a restraining order the judge denied it and when I told my story of the past he said I should have reported it when it happened but since I didn’t he said I wasn’t in any danger I’m very open about my past just because if I can help 1 female with my story it’s worth it) but after telling my bf my past he didn’t run so things were good, he was there when my nightmares had me in tears he was there when I was down and made me happy and bam outa the blue about a month ago he decided he wants me to move out and he doesnt know what he wants, yeah that’s the life I live. sorry I shared my story on this post but the reason for me commenting on this is you will find someone that you deserve or more so someone who deserves you, you’re cute and from your posts I think you’re a very caring man. I’m terrified to go back out and do the dating thing but I keep hoping that there is someone out there who can handle my spouts of sadness deal with my crazy hate for my body and my nerdy personality and my all around weirdness. So if I have hope there’s hope for you, you will find someone just be yourself and be patient 🙂