While I appreciate you have story about divorce and custody battles like I do and I listened when you told yours intently until mine came about and then you wanted to reiterate the fact that you are divorced and this will be nothing and time heals all wounds nonsense.
I am not trying to be selfish but I came to talk to you about my situation and what I am feeling. I am glad you went through the same thing but it was years ago and you have dealt with the pain and gotten through it. Mine is still fresh and I have to go there too.
I would rather a sympathetic ear then telling me it is nothing and time heals and all that nonsense. It is easy to say that when you have recovered.
I just wish people, some people would be considerate. I do not like being placated too nor patronized. Just listen, that is all and maybe a hug if it warrants it or we can go out and grab a beer or something.
Sorry, rant over.
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*hugs* I wished time healed all wounds, but it doesn’t work that way. Memories are memories for a reason, they last until death… or a lobotomy :/
Hugs 🙁
Thanks. I did not mean it for anyone here just one of my old high school buddies I ran into decided to take over the conversation I heard and double heard from the phone and social media and it just sucked that I was trying to tell him how I felt.
I must be a different cut of guy, well not completely different or I would not have ruined the relationship with the wife. I do not have to want to put on a tough guy act all the time. I know my wife liked it when I was sensitive when she needed it and tough when she needed it.
the main reason I came here. I couldn’t handle people telling me things were gonna be ok you can’t end you life because things are bad. Well yes I can and I will if I feel the need right at this moment I’m ok but it’s not bed time yet. You’re right time doesn’t heal all wounds. So I know I’m a stranger but *hugs* and whatever you decide to do i hope you get the peace you deserve.
Man I have been in your shoes. When you are in the heat of divorce proceedings your pain can be right at or even beyond the breaking point. Divorce can be, and for me it was, just excruciating. By the way I have a friend going through it right now and she is often in screaming pain, literally. Yes I heard a few of those dismissive comments from coworkers etc too when I was in the white hot heat of pain and I can tell you they did not help and were not appropriate. Divorce got me real close to catching the bus. Not a trivial matter, not for me anyway.