i keep asking for advice and i am sorry but i have no where else to go and no one else to ask. my best friend is starting to hate me because of this one situation i wont let go of. so this website is all i’ve got at the moment……
i’ve mentioned the guy who begged me for sexual photos of myself and whatnot in previous posts. but i have come to a conclusion that it could be considered harassment. every single time he talks to me, he begs for them. when i say “no” he guilts me, when i say “no” AGAIN, he gets angry with me then goes for days pretending i don’t exist. then comes back all fine asking how my week was and shit, asks again… then repeats the cycle 5 days later. now i talked it out with him and told him that it makes me feel unimportant when all he cares about is the photos and whatnot.
he ended up blaming me and saying he was so offended by the things i accused him of?? well, long story short, it ended in a big argument.
i didn’t understand what i even did wrong, and so i asked what i did. I wanted to see if i could fix it, and he straight up said “you don’t deserve to know”. i ended up asking a million times, crying my ass off, and finally he ended up saying “every time i’m sad, i ask for the photos of you without clothes on because they would help me feel better. but since u say “no” i guess you don’t want me to be happy. and every time im sad you ask if i wanna talk about it, and just focus on the bad things in my head, rather than distracting me.” Because whenever he seemed upset, i always asked “Wanna call and talk about it? you can rant to me and i will help!” and i always give him advice and explain how great he is and how the world loves him and blah blah blah…. but he straight up said i dont help, i make him more miserable, and that “I DONT DESERVE TO KNOW WHY HE IS MAD”
what does that even mean? “you dont deserve to know” like…….excuse me??????
anywho, is this harassment or assault or abuse or anything? idk my friend says im being harassed and emotionally abused (they seem like big terms to use in such a small situation, but this leaves me suicidal so idk maybe it could be considered these things..?), but i don’t know because i like this guy and when you like someone, its hard to focus on how bad they are??? any advice on getting out of this relationship? he’s been suicidal and he says i’ve helped him get through it so im scared to leave in case he needs me and does something when i am not there for him. he has also helped me get through very low points in my life so i do love him…… help!!!
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Wow. He’s very immature. He doesn’t need compromising pics of you.. He’s manipulative. If he ever gets pics of you, it will end badly for you.
Just because someone has felt pain or been suicidal, doesn’t mean they will have empathy for you, or not be a total asshat.
He. Is. A. CREEP! Stop letting him manipulate you and make you feel bad because you won’t send him nudes. Yes, it is harassment and other people here have already told you this guy is no good.
He is a pure piece of flaming shit, sorry for the language but there’s no other word to describe him. Yes its harrassment. What kind of piece of flaming shit blackmails someone for nude pics by playing the depression card? What a fucking insult to those of us who actually have depression and would kill for a phone call. What a SHIT he is.
He sounds like a sociopath. Definitely a POS. Don’t get upset, get mad, and possibly even. Don’t let sociopaths have power. You sound very strong willed. I admire that.
Yeah like everyone says. This guy is no good. When a guy do get nudes of you, he show off those pictures of you to other guys like he is showing off a trophy, and chances are it may land on a porn site. Once it’s on the internet, it is hard to get the picture off. You don’t owe this guy anything. He using the suicide excuse to guilt you into giving him pictures. Best thing is to cut him out of your life, and when he comes up to you walk away, or get authority to deal with him. Best of Luck.
I agree with everything said here as for the guy being toxic and manipulative. but it is not fair to say every guy runs around showing off with the nudes they have got.
I have had a few number of girls sending me their nudes. all of which without me even asking for it and I never let anyone see them. not even my very close friends. this is so evil. not everyone does that but this guy certainly will.
i’ll write u again very very soon… just hold on, okay 🙂