Well, here I am in Tennessee. Take it for granted I live in North Carolina! I’m here wit my boyfriend of over a year. And I can’t keep doing life. It’s hard bills over bills. I pay all of our bills and he makes more than me! He is verbally abusive. He tries to take my dog away! I paid for her. It’s just gotten to the Point of I can’t do it anymore!
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Leave him.
I guarantee you: EVERY woman who is with an abusive partner is shortchanging herself. Every single one.
Yea. I guess.
Yes, they are, I fully agree
so you’ll quit life?
no, love
if you ARE gonna quit something
it should be your boyfriend… not your life ! 🙁
do you think that’s a good idea?
could you leave him?
I love him. I know every freaking female says that. We have good times but we have bad times. He has been absuive mentally and physically!
I appreciate & value your feelings for him
& u’re not to blame
but if you know for a fact that he will not change
& that the abuse will continue
even if you point it straight out to him…
that’s it’s deeply hurting you
& that he’s not helping out
then love
you have to help yourself see that these valuable feelings you have are only harming you
& that you have to let go of them & of him in order to survive & move on
I know it’s really really hard
but if this is the case
I second what “Fractured Mind” says
if he will not realize he’s mistaken & will not treat you better
please do try to consider leaving him
for your own safety & for your own good
okay love
<3
I'm here for you if you need anything
or just need to talk
my email is
farahlajeennouraldeen.1@gmail
please know u'r most most welcome to contact me any time you wish
& please don't do anything dark okay…
no one & nothing is ever worth ur life
<3
You can’t help loving him. That is not your fault. But you can leave him anyway. Staying with him will only reinforce that love. Leave him and it will fade.
I mean, I don’t know.
www . domesticshelters . org/tn/tennessee-domestic-violence-help-statistics
Has hard as it may be for you, you should leave…go back home if possible, move out, go to a shelter anything but don’t stay, it only and always will just get worse… i know from experience.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
I assume (just assume, not sure if it’s true) that there is this cycle, he is being abusive, you feel you can’t take this anymore, but just when you would do something about it, he suddenly changes into someone nice and you don’t want to leave anymore, you love him. He is not perfect but now you see it’s worth it.
Except when you’d already ease into the confort, he strikes again (verbally, emotionally, physically?). He is this monster again, life is hell again. But you are waiting, hoping that this to go away and for him to be nice again.
But usually the abusive parts of the cycle tend to get worse and worse, it lasts longer, hell seems darker by a shade or two every time.
You are still waiting.
At one point, there is nothing else anymore, only the memory of the “nice guy” moments, but somewhere in your mind you feel it will come back.
It usually doesn’t.
But until then, you’re already tired, exhausted and somehow believe you deserve this.
You don’t. You deserve to be happy, to be with someone loving, to love yourself, to forgive yourself.
But what he’s done is not your fault and he is not your responsibility, his actions are his own responsibility.
I understand if you feel you don’t want to leave because I can relate.
You are strong though and I know that at some point you’ll find yourself again.
*hugs*