The thought that I am so utterly alone feels impossible to endure for an entire lifetime. I talk to people sometimes, family or a distant friend, I cha.t with people online, but all of it feels so shallow and superficial. I want a real connection, but no matter where I look, I can’t find it. People seem so uninteresting. Maybe I am expecting too much, but last time I ignored who I am and what needs I have, it didn’t end well.
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You need to give time for people to open up, you’re not going to learn every corner of someones mind simply by demanding it, relationships of any kind, friend,family,lover all take time.
i think you are simply running around expecting a spark to occur but this is not realistic, everything takes time.
Give everyone a chance, make an effort and hope they make an effort back, with time you will learn that even the people you look at and judge as simple, boring and uninteresting have a whole world of exploration behind their eyes, hidden away inside their minds.
People are extremely intricate, what you see is not what you get.
I do, I try to give everyone a chance to get to know me and to open up themselves, even beyond the point where I’d think it’s reasonable. I never stop talking to someone when I feel like they genuinely enjoy talking to me, because that mere fact already makes it as enjoyable for me. But when they don’t it’s just as hard for me to open up.
I know that the spark is possible, when after talking for a while or exchanging a few messages you can feel that you’re so much on the same wavelength that you almost already know what goes on in their head. I still make an effort to find a connection even when that is not the case, but it’s sadly not often fruitful, because there’s no mutual interest.
I shouldn’t write this, I doubt it would make you feel better… Idk really. I’ve talked to various people online for years (not in a row, people come and go anyways). This may had been for weeks, months, or even years (but that’s rare).
Overall I agree that most people are boring. I haven’t had much real life interaction due to my circumstances, except at school, and I didn’t like my school years anyway. I haven’t always been great, I’ve done alot of stupid things really, when I was younger… Altho that can be for another time.
The majority of people I have talked to, even here. Honestly its felt… I don’t know. Yeah I’ve met kind people. But with most I don’t even know what to say at all, so I just write and hope… I had been looking for someone who I can relate to, I had cheated in my last online relationship and that was unacceptable of me, and before that I had 5 years of… well, truly a waste of life. I had been looking throughout the years, I knew there had to be someone out there, who I could connect with and relate to. Who I could truly be myself with and feel free, and I didn’t have to sit there wondering what I should say. But it was really getting to me, wondering if I would ever meet such a person ( even though I knew they were out there).
I think I’m just gonna accept that I can’t really relate with most people. I can have the usual ‘hi how are you, hows your day…’ kind of thing… Lastly I did not want deep conversations all the time. Only sometimes, I’m open but preferable if they agreed on some things. Someone who can be serious and yet playful and yet I’d have a deep emotional connection with, like it just flows nicely…
Sorry for the babbling
No reason to be sorry, because that’s exactly what I feel like as well.
Well, it’s certainly not pathetic that being lonely is bothering you so much…companionship seems to be a basic human need.
I’m the last person to give advice on this subject. But here’s one POSSIBLE thought. Maybe some of the people you could relate to best aren’t very happy themselves, so it seems like they’re not enjoying talking to you very much, even when they actually are getting something out of it.
It’s not