I see so many comments here about people not being able to connect with other people. I can’t either. Why is that? Why are you/we unable to connect with others?
I know better than to try. Raised by two pieces of shit who let me know every chance they got that I wasn’t worth the toilet paper they wiped their asses with. Tends to make you just want to stay inside yourself.
mhmm good question, I just think i’ll be a burden to other people, being depressed and anxious all the time. it’s easier for me to stay away from potential relationships. also part of me really want to leave this world. so by not connecting to people it’ll be easier for me to leave
Because the majority of ppl nowadays are highly opinionated and self-absorbed to the point of not even hearing what you say. We live in an age where it seems everyone has become a walking facebook page just looking for the opportunity to spout their beliefs and how offended they are about whatever. I’ve friends(or I thought they were friends)that I’ve know for years and having looked at the things they’ve posted on media I’ve realized I don’t know these ppl?! It’s not like I’m going to ditch them because we have a different view but I can’t sit there and listen to it continuously when in their presence. I’ve actually had them ask me the same question over and over again because they’re not even listening to me after they asked me a question?! I even tried to make my answers as short and sweet as possible to try and penetrate their limited attention span and obvious over-eagerness to get to what THEIR answer/view is. I’ve been experimenting-example: you can even stop talking for very long periods and no one even notices. They’re having conversations with themselves. You just happen to come along. I once stopped talking as a teenager for 2 years and no one noticed. And that was years ago and the problem has become tremendously worse since then. Family/friends, I’m losing them all. I can’t go there with them anymore. It’s become very lonely. I’ve so long wanted to just sit down with someone who really listens(even at least hears)you. I really try to to listen to others but starting to think the term “energy vampire” is a real thing. It seems some people need drama in their lives just to have the energy to get out of bed in the morning or feel they have an identity. Has anyone else experienced this? It seems to be getting worse. At least in America.
That is the million dollar question.From the time I was small people never liked me,I was always an viewed as an outsider, different and to this day it’s hard for me to make friends
I use to feel inadequate, not worthy and a burden when I interact with people. Like I don’t have anything good to say/give to others because literally I haven’t lived never. Maybe because of that too I have fear of people looking me in the eye, feels like they’re judging me and hurts so much.
I can’t connect with others because I think in a very different way from them, and I have very different values. Part of it is having Asperger’s, but there’s a lot more.
Good question eternaldarkness. Usually one of the comments is similar to my experience. But this time there isn’t one. My inability to connect is the cause of me being socially inept. I can’t ever remember any time in my life that I have ever connected with anyone and my memories go back to the age of 4! I don’t know why I can’t connect. Which makes me believe that I was made this way. When I see couples together, it hurts me inside a lot. The failure to connect is a painful reminder that I’m doomed to be single forever.
I’ve pondered that question for 47 years my friend. When I attach my “happy” mask I can make small talk and fit in with the “normal” people. People at work, people at the gym, they have no idea what a fucking mentally depressed lonely fool I am. I can fake it with the best. That’s why I can’t connect. How do you connect when you have to wear a heavy mask of fictitious happiness?
I sort of like the peace and serenity of being alone. Well, I am not actually alone I do have my beloved pooch. The flip side is that sometimes the loneliness gets pretty bad.
Excellent topic question!!
I have no one I can relate to – always feel like I’m ‘different’ than everyone else – which I am – but most people seem to find a way past that. I never have. That and I have absolutely no friends.. I live in a very small town and there’s nowhere to go to connect…not that I’ve found anyway 🙁
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Because they aren’t compatable with my brain’s current firmware.
I know better than to try. Raised by two pieces of shit who let me know every chance they got that I wasn’t worth the toilet paper they wiped their asses with. Tends to make you just want to stay inside yourself.
mhmm good question, I just think i’ll be a burden to other people, being depressed and anxious all the time. it’s easier for me to stay away from potential relationships. also part of me really want to leave this world. so by not connecting to people it’ll be easier for me to leave
I don’t want to put weight on other people, everyone is already going through too much. I don’t think they’d actually like what I have to say anyways.
Because the majority of ppl nowadays are highly opinionated and self-absorbed to the point of not even hearing what you say. We live in an age where it seems everyone has become a walking facebook page just looking for the opportunity to spout their beliefs and how offended they are about whatever. I’ve friends(or I thought they were friends)that I’ve know for years and having looked at the things they’ve posted on media I’ve realized I don’t know these ppl?! It’s not like I’m going to ditch them because we have a different view but I can’t sit there and listen to it continuously when in their presence. I’ve actually had them ask me the same question over and over again because they’re not even listening to me after they asked me a question?! I even tried to make my answers as short and sweet as possible to try and penetrate their limited attention span and obvious over-eagerness to get to what THEIR answer/view is. I’ve been experimenting-example: you can even stop talking for very long periods and no one even notices. They’re having conversations with themselves. You just happen to come along. I once stopped talking as a teenager for 2 years and no one noticed. And that was years ago and the problem has become tremendously worse since then. Family/friends, I’m losing them all. I can’t go there with them anymore. It’s become very lonely. I’ve so long wanted to just sit down with someone who really listens(even at least hears)you. I really try to to listen to others but starting to think the term “energy vampire” is a real thing. It seems some people need drama in their lives just to have the energy to get out of bed in the morning or feel they have an identity. Has anyone else experienced this? It seems to be getting worse. At least in America.
That is the million dollar question.From the time I was small people never liked me,I was always an viewed as an outsider, different and to this day it’s hard for me to make friends
I use to feel inadequate, not worthy and a burden when I interact with people. Like I don’t have anything good to say/give to others because literally I haven’t lived never. Maybe because of that too I have fear of people looking me in the eye, feels like they’re judging me and hurts so much.
I can’t connect with others because I think in a very different way from them, and I have very different values. Part of it is having Asperger’s, but there’s a lot more.
Good question eternaldarkness. Usually one of the comments is similar to my experience. But this time there isn’t one. My inability to connect is the cause of me being socially inept. I can’t ever remember any time in my life that I have ever connected with anyone and my memories go back to the age of 4! I don’t know why I can’t connect. Which makes me believe that I was made this way. When I see couples together, it hurts me inside a lot. The failure to connect is a painful reminder that I’m doomed to be single forever.
I just understand people and I know I won’t fit with them
I’ve pondered that question for 47 years my friend. When I attach my “happy” mask I can make small talk and fit in with the “normal” people. People at work, people at the gym, they have no idea what a fucking mentally depressed lonely fool I am. I can fake it with the best. That’s why I can’t connect. How do you connect when you have to wear a heavy mask of fictitious happiness?
I sort of like the peace and serenity of being alone. Well, I am not actually alone I do have my beloved pooch. The flip side is that sometimes the loneliness gets pretty bad.
Excellent topic question!!
I have no idea why I can’t connect with people. I think I might just be wired wrong, because I can’t remember a time when I haven’t been this way.
I have Asperger’s, but I’m not so sure that that’s the cause. It’s a possibility, though.
I have no one I can relate to – always feel like I’m ‘different’ than everyone else – which I am – but most people seem to find a way past that. I never have. That and I have absolutely no friends.. I live in a very small town and there’s nowhere to go to connect…not that I’ve found anyway 🙁