So I know that I’ll never find the love of my life, can’t hold a job, and live on social security and food stamps. I have a disability, so sue me. Is there a possibly that I can have kids? Since having a career never worked out, and guys only want to use me, how can I afford them? Since I’m already dependent on government, wouldn’t they just give me more money? I want to have kids because I want them not to get more money from the government. I can have one. Just one measly kid. Is that asking too much? I was thinking about homeschooling my kid, and spending as much time with them as possible and I find other moms and we work together to help each out. I was thinking about being artificially inseminated in my 30s. I have even looked at a list of donors. I want one with blond hair and blue eyes with either a master’s or doctorate. So how does this social security and kids work?
Rant: I want a real friend, someone I can physically hang out with. All I get is people who will never meet me or sexual predators. Gave up on the internet. Been a while since a guy hit on me. Not complaining just observing. I think the reason is because I’m not going out very much. They liked to approach me when I use to work. Girls just ignore me completely. They don’t avoid me necessarily. They’re either hanging out with their boyfriends, trying to get boyfriends, or just not interested in me. Other people can make friends, all I attract are sexual predators. I hate them. Sometimes I wish I had the power to crack the ground open and send them all the hell.
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why do you want a kid? only for your pleasure? because everyone does it? because society tells you to? in your situation, having a kid will only bring in this life another tragic life. Don’t until you get better all around. Think about the kid not about you. He will be unhappy in your present condition. Get satisfaction you’re not bringing someone in this world to suffer. For now.
Kids are a tremendous responsibility, and having a kid for the wrong reasons, without considering the ramifications is bad for everyone involved (especially the mother and the child). The last thing a caring parent would want is their child to feel like they don’t mean jack shit to them.
So why exactly do you want a kid?
Get that 100% straight first. Be prepared for your life to be forever altered by said baby. This child would now be your priority in life. You’d have to be willing to sacrifice for your child’s needs (and wants every so often).
Children are innocent and wonderful, and really can improve one’s life. It’s even better when a child grows up and becomes a reasonable, kind, respectful adult due to good parenting. However, so many things can shape a child. It’d be your responsibility to determine this child’s key traits and values, so that they can come out on top in a not-so-forgiving world.
So, again, why do you want kids? Do you believe you are mentally prepared to have a child? Do you think you can find someone suitable to help raise said child, and if you’re against that, are you prepared to raise him/her on your own, whole-hog?
I’m being completely objective when I ask you these things? My older brother has 3 kids, from 3 different women. I’ve been told, and seen with my own two eyes, that he isn’t the best father, but I stay out of his business, and swore to break the cycle and work on myself before even thinking about bringing someone else into my life, or bringing a kid into it.
Anyways, hoping for the best for you with that.
P.S. You can adopt a kid. That’s always an option.
This is an interesting post,,,, in fact, I was about to go to bed and accidentally found it, last minute.
I can say a lot,,,,
A kid,,, don’t just have a kid to have a kid,,, no-one wins with that ever, really,, ever.
You are looking for a guy? So are a lot of other women. I look for a real lady, one that doesn’t play games,,, and why I remain single by choice.
Yes many (if not most) guys just use women,,, makes me sick,,, but I will say not all guys are like that… I most certainly am not… easy to say I know,,, but again, I remain single by choice,,,,because I am picky, yes, I am.
Sounds like you were involved with internet relationships…. they can be good or bad,,, ask me how I know….
Sexual predators,,, scum of the earth….
A kid needs a father. Period
lol
Wihat’s so fiunny? Spill your thoughts. Come on.
Nietzsche once made an interesting point, if you could live your life-exactly the way it is now, over and over again for 1,000 times would you? Would you enjoy this life or would it be suffering? Would you wish your life on anyone else?
You have a disability, you’re unable to work, you’re surviving on food stamps. If you can’t support yourself, how will you take care of a kid on top? Children have needs, it takes about $240,000 to raise a child from zero to 20 yrs old.
That’s $1,000/per month, where is that money going to come from? We’re talking diapers, medicine, clothing, education and we haven’t even started talking about college/university. Turn the scenario around, if you were a child would you pick someone in your situation to be a parent? If you tried to adopt do you think they’d let you have a kid?
I realize it can be difficult in your situation and I’m not trying to minimize it but perhaps you can get a dog/cat, it might be easier to manage.
I have been through my own personal hell and back and the one thing I’m really happy I didn’t do was have kids and put them in the situation that I’m in. I used to be poorer, scraping by, but things have improved and I believe this year they’ll be even better.
Once I get a nice house, good partner/wife only then will I consider having children. Otherwise why would I add to the hell-hole I’m already in and have innocent kids suffer too for no reason? Just because we want things in life, doesn’t me we’re owed them, or should have them. We have to approach life with logic and common sense.
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*doesn’t mean….
(post is in moderation atm)
Poverty is high stress, day in and day out. That pain and your pain will be felt by the child.
A child needs to be part of a fully functioning household, not the center of it.