Hi. I am Jupiter-7, and this is my first post here.
In my life it’s been hard to make long-term connections socially that are authentic and involve the other person/people understanding me. It also seems difficult for others to be open with me. I can be a very open and intimate person, but often don’t get much of a chance.
I know a lot of us would like to believe that we are fine and that other people mess things up, that we don’t make mistakes, but it is true that I try really, really hard to make others understand who I am. I guess they don’t want to.
Anyway, thanks for letting me be here.
~Jupiter-7
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Sorry you feel bad jupiter. Hope you won’t need this site for long.
Thanks. I am usually a lurker; figured it was worth a shot.
Welcome, I hope this place can offer you something.
Relationships are tricky, I don’t know if people are blind or simply refuse to connect with others intimately and deeply. It can be a vulnerable place to be so open with someone but in my experience the more intimate expressions are usually one off and then pushed to the back and ignored. That could just be me, though.
Yeah, this is true for my experience as well. Nobody seems to really be consistent and prefer to open up kinda a little but then close back up. It’s really hard for me to be a helpful person without almost forcing the truth out of people.
Hi there. I agree that it’s hard to get close to people. Where you can both open up to eachother. It would be nice though! I’m always jealous of other humans that have that.
I’ve not really seen humans who do. For the most part, they are much older or it seems better than it is, old or not. I believe it happens, though; I am not a total pessimist about it all.
Here I am leading with a challenge; how certain are you that you know yourself and understand what is going on? Can’t tell the tale if you are missing bits of the premise.
Anyway, that’s just me. Welcome. I’ve been floating around here for awhile, and in fact when I saw your message it triggered the self doubt; “Did I ever introduce myself?” which was followed by my normal depressive answer “Does it matter?” I suppose perhaps to someone. I’m 33 years into being a weird outsider in every group I enter. To the point I started wondering if I was choosing it. I used to be an open book, which it sounds like you are. That’s fine, eventually you’ll meet someone to tell your stories to. Now? I only answer direct questions, and talk about things that I want to. Call it lonely, but it’s a low rejection approach and works somewhat well.
Consider though; you’re the only one with your eyes. Only you see the world as you do. To actually tell the entire tale would be longwinded, and people seem to have limited patience/attention span. Thus; condense into how you differ from others. That still may be more than you can tell, so you can further limit it to whether what you have is immediately relevant to what is going on.
Thanks, Heartlessviking! I appreciate you explaining a possible practical approach to my mental frustrations in terms of social interactions. Your introduction certainly mattered to me 🙂