Never lost somebody that I cared about, so never had to cope with this. Actual family members who died I wasn’t that fond of, this was my cat…. Best friend I’ve ever had, had her for over half my life, raised her since she was a tiny kitten, and today I had to feel her die and hold her lifeless body.
I don’t have any coping options that can help with this, I am attempting other things but I’ll probably turn to cutting, I haven’t cut for a long time, months…. Years without really bad serious cutting, I’m going to probably fall into some very bad cutting soon, I’m not sure how else I can cope.
I came here as an attempt to cope, I have other friends but I don’t want to say all these things to them, they know what happened they don’t know how close to self harm I am, I don’t want them to know this either. Sometimes posting here does help.
could You tell me what type of cat she was?
does it… help… if we talk about her a bit? could You tell me how she was like throughout that lifetime friendship?
No idea on exact breed, she was feral born…. A lot of Siamese traits though but in a long haired kitty. She was the best kitty. Always around me, cuddled often, very talkative.
it feels like she was really ‘a person’ to You… : )
i think many people get to have ‘pets’
but only few get to have ‘pet friends’
: )
as sad as i know this time must feel for You, i just have to say it:
mate, You’re really fortunate <3
i do believe every Life is essentially a Spirit
& that
while Bodies have a pre-set 'game over' timing
Spirits are imperishable… Spirits never really die
they only just… exist in some sort of mystery 'temporary world' parallel to our world,
& they stay in it till this whole story of 'Life' ends
& then, skipping some 'important' details,
most of those spirits will get to reunite again in a permanent 'other world'
that is far better than any place else
so, my friend,
if it's anyyy consolation at all,
i do believe your cat is still 'there'
not in body
but in Spirit
& in that sense
You
haven't really lost her
She just took an earlier 'departure flight' to a destination we're all set to go to anyway, just that each of us has to wait & only go in our own time, with our own departure ticket
I’m very sorry. I’ve been through this also with a cat who was a son to me. There are no words to describe the pain of this type of loss and no quick remedy for the hurt. I’m not going to tell you what or what not to do. Only you can decide on a course of action to find relief. There’s a website called APLB.org (Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement) that has chat rooms run by volunteer facilitators, in which other pet parents who are dealing with loss can meet and support one another. I used it for a few weeks after losing my little boy and it helped some. It’s just an outlet for some of the pain. I’m genuinely sorry you had to experience this…but its the cycle of life and love. My sincerest condolences, Shatterediris.
thank you, I might look into that place if I really start to feel like I need it. I just woke up into the first day without her. I’m sure eventually I’ll stop looking for her while moving around the house.
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from past experience…
anything else[less\non-harmful] that helps in such situations?
[potentially also asking… have You ever tried anything else[less\non-harmful] instead?]
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<3
Never lost somebody that I cared about, so never had to cope with this. Actual family members who died I wasn’t that fond of, this was my cat…. Best friend I’ve ever had, had her for over half my life, raised her since she was a tiny kitten, and today I had to feel her die and hold her lifeless body.
I don’t have any coping options that can help with this, I am attempting other things but I’ll probably turn to cutting, I haven’t cut for a long time, months…. Years without really bad serious cutting, I’m going to probably fall into some very bad cutting soon, I’m not sure how else I can cope.
I came here as an attempt to cope, I have other friends but I don’t want to say all these things to them, they know what happened they don’t know how close to self harm I am, I don’t want them to know this either. Sometimes posting here does help.
Thank you very much though.
Ohw mannn : (
i’m so sorryyy
could You tell me what type of cat she was?
does it… help… if we talk about her a bit? could You tell me how she was like throughout that lifetime friendship?
No idea on exact breed, she was feral born…. A lot of Siamese traits though but in a long haired kitty. She was the best kitty. Always around me, cuddled often, very talkative.
I really like Siamese cats, do you want to share any pictures of her?
not really, no sorry. Like yes I would like to but also it increases the risk that somebody I know would recognize me, so I really can’t.
it feels like she was really ‘a person’ to You… : )
i think many people get to have ‘pets’
but only few get to have ‘pet friends’
: )
as sad as i know this time must feel for You, i just have to say it:
mate, You’re really fortunate <3
i do believe every Life is essentially a Spirit
& that
while Bodies have a pre-set 'game over' timing
Spirits are imperishable… Spirits never really die
they only just… exist in some sort of mystery 'temporary world' parallel to our world,
& they stay in it till this whole story of 'Life' ends
& then, skipping some 'important' details,
most of those spirits will get to reunite again in a permanent 'other world'
that is far better than any place else
so, my friend,
if it's anyyy consolation at all,
i do believe your cat is still 'there'
not in body
but in Spirit
& in that sense
You
haven't really lost her
She just took an earlier 'departure flight' to a destination we're all set to go to anyway, just that each of us has to wait & only go in our own time, with our own departure ticket
any of that makes any sense in any way?
: )
not a ‘Loss’
just a ‘temporary break’
: )
I’m very sorry. I’ve been through this also with a cat who was a son to me. There are no words to describe the pain of this type of loss and no quick remedy for the hurt. I’m not going to tell you what or what not to do. Only you can decide on a course of action to find relief. There’s a website called APLB.org (Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement) that has chat rooms run by volunteer facilitators, in which other pet parents who are dealing with loss can meet and support one another. I used it for a few weeks after losing my little boy and it helped some. It’s just an outlet for some of the pain. I’m genuinely sorry you had to experience this…but its the cycle of life and love. My sincerest condolences, Shatterediris.
thank you, I might look into that place if I really start to feel like I need it. I just woke up into the first day without her. I’m sure eventually I’ll stop looking for her while moving around the house.
Ouch. God I’m sorry.