it’s been a while since i posted here
they put so much pressure on me to know what i want to be doing in the future though the way they act, it’s hard to know what i should be doing in the present. it’s hard trying to follow their every command, trying to be perfect.
it’s so confusing.
i have this girl who calls herself my friend, but i’ve never said i’m hers. i hate her so much. she’s so self-centered, and the few times i’ve attempted to bring up my own problems(never again) she always makes it about her, and brings up her own. it’s not always about you, please hear me out, PLEASE listen to me.
she’s always finding some way to make herself look like a victim, some pitiable thing, though it’s plain rude when she tries to one-up others’ problems.
anyways, this isn’t about her. hh.
my mental health has been really deteriorating recently, and she’s not helping. she can never take a hint and will never leave me alone. i’m trying to leave her, but it won’t do.
is it okay if i want to cut her off?
she makes me feel so bad(and i can’t tell if it’s on purpose) because i feel like she’s saying my problems aren’t as bad as hers, or that mine don’t matter, i don’t know.
sorry.
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Yes! CUT HER OUT OF YOUR LIFE. I used to have this friend, who would talk shit and gossip about my other friend, or how a teacher did this or that. She was pretty toxic. An incident happened, and I swore at her, saying I didn’t want to be her friend anymore. She sent me to the FREAKING COUSELOR. But stay strong, someone harming your mental health in any shape or form, shouldn’t be around you.
I get the ‘ i feel like she’s saying my problems aren’t as bad as hers, or that mine don’t matter’
Your problems, always matter, maybe not to YOU–but to someone.
Just because your problems aren’t as bad as the next persons, doesn’t mean they aren’t bad.
I get this stuff all the time.
I feel like I want to kill myself and my parents are like, “think about the poor kids in Ukraine that don’t have roofs over their heads”
WELL, NO FUCKING DUH
I may have a roof over my head, but it doesn’t mean I shouldn’t get to feel sad or want to kill myself. EVERYONE HAS REASONS. If we always compare our problems to others- then what’s the point of life?
I get to eat cereal, but homeless people can’t. It sucks, and one day I will help out.
But we can’t always things of the bad, cause then how are we going to live?
Anywho, cut her out.
Your mental health is way more important than sticking with this person. If it means being lonely, its fine. But don’t let this Karen affect your life anymore.
thanks for the advice! this really helps me feel less guilty lol