Before I rant I’m just gonna give a brief backstory because why the fuck not :). [So long story short me and my sister suffered a lot of mental and some physical abuse from my Dad and when I was 12 a restraining order between us and him was put in place, which he didn’t try to even fight because he doesn’t care (I haven’t seen him since)].
Anyways So my aunt died a couple weeks ago. (Aunt = Dads brothers wife) I didn’t have a close relationship with her mainly because I don’t remember her before she had a stroke and brain aneurysm and lost use of the entire right side of her body (after that she spent a lot of time in nursing homes) but I still loved her. So my uncle invited me and my sister to the funeral. The funeral was like a 5 hour drive from us since that’s where my uncle lived. (it was Thursday morning and we were gonna drive there on Friday because the funeral was Saturday) and my uncle calls my sister telling her it would be best if we didn’t go to the funeral. WTF. he said its because my dad found out we were going and told my uncle he wasn’t going to be there if my sister and I were there. And my uncle didn’t want to explain to a bunch of people why his brother wasn’t going to be there Because my dad was the “Paul bearer” which I guess is an important role in the funeral. don’t ask me because I don’t know what it is.
Anyways so I don’t know why but I was just sitting here thinking about how fucked up that was.
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Dude that situation’s f’d up. You’d think a funeral would be 1 time everyone sets aside their differences or at least agrees to go to opposite corners long enough to bury the dead. I guess your uncle made the best possible decision since your dad is actually in the funeral ceremony, it just sucks that your side of the family loses out.
Funerals in general are surreal, idk what to think of them. I know I definitely don’t want one. When my best friend died there was a big ceremony and everything went smoothly but I couldn’t help thinking that my dead friend wasn’t there, so what’s it all for? I just remember crying faces, so much pain concentrated in 1 place, if I gave it any thought I’d say it was traumatic. So maybe it’s a good thing if you sit this one out. Say goodbye in your own private way…
It just upsets me that such a shitty person got to play such an important role in it. its not like he was Mourning he doesn’t care about anyone but himself. he legit does not no how to love. But whatever. I really thought I was going to get to see my cousin too. I know the person who died is not there but at some point in time people made that their way of Mourning and being able to move on. Whatever gets us through I guess. I get your point though.