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Well, I think a lot of that depends on what you bring to the table and how you come across to others.

I also think you’re expressing honestly what some of us feel as well. It’s funny I know I’m anonymous and yet I still hold a lot back for fear of embarrassment.

The trouble with me is that I’m simply never in situations where there are a lot of women/girls I could meet (like clubs) and I don’t often go to the mall.

Still on occasion I do get checked out by beautiful girls…I think it’s cause I still carry myself well and have a frame I built up from when I used to body build, though I am a bit overweight now.

I don’t know I probably look better to women than how I feel about myself…but I put myself in this bad situation where I’d take almost anyone that’s cute enough now. Before my standards were fairly high.

Also I’m not an azzhole like some men who use/abuse women…so if anyone should be in a good relationship it should be me…but I messed up opportunities that I had in the past.

The other problem is that I used to have a few friends I could use as wingmen, but my current group of friends are either married with kids or are tied up with women so they have no interest in going to bars/clubs.

I also gave online dating an honest try and it sucked azz…I always had a better response from girls IRL. If I had at least one friend to go to a club or elsewhere then I’m fairly sure I’d find someone….I tried going to clubs alone in the past but it’s risky and you look like a loser/loner.