My mom had at the time helped me to understand the gravity of what happened, what I’ve done, and what the future of my friendship to my friend looked like. My moms prediction- Not good (and if my mom felt something to be true, it was most likely true.) I had felt that I would get an answer like that , but at least I had an answer. (because I knew that my friend’s mouth wasn’t budging and neither was her mother’s.)
My mom had told me that I should let go of my friend, because as she put it was ” Tragically ended.” It pained me to feel that my close friend, the one I spent hours drawing with, the one I had been to amusement parks with, and laughed so hard with..was gone. I couldn’t believe it. And I spent a decent(okay..i little bit over excessive) amount of time thinking about what happened. But now that I’ve grown up a little more, become more open to change and other people. I can say that I’m happy I was able to know my friend, and laugh with her (and cry with her.) But after the way she treated me after I told her I desperately needed her, I can say that she isn’t worth getting worked up over. All of this happened roughly last year, but even now I know my friend still won’t talk to me.
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Hi redisblue. Your story resonates for me, I had a painful break-up with a female friend over two years ago, we had been close friends for eleven years and she meant so much to me. I too told her I needed her but she treated me contemptuously and I had to come to terms with the fact that she wasn’t who I thought she was…
I think losing a friend can be every bit as painful as losing a partner or lover, maybe even more so.
I’m so pleased for you that you have found the courage and strength to move on with your life from this painful episode, remaining open to new friendships etc. I am reminded of a saying I often remember at times like these: ‘the best revenge is living well’. It sounds like that’s what you’re doing. Z x