Tonight was the second time in less then a week that I’ve been told depression doesn’t exist and that we all have control of our minds and chose how we want to be… Were just soaking ourselves in tears and sadness because were too “lazy” to get out and try to be happy…………
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Whoever told you that depression doesn’t exist probably doesn’t know what depression is. Heh, if we had complete control of our minds then I would ask my mind to ask my brain to release HGH and make me 6’8″, make me a female and give me the looks of the cutest female supermodel and make me smarter than einstein.
Well then if you don’t understand something shouldn’t you just not even judge?… Go inform yourself before you judge someone and even then you don’t know their background or where they came from so you’d still have no right.. Not to mention I think you should show a little kindness to everyone even if they have had wrongs because everyone makes mistakes.. And if I could control my mind Id tell my mind to make me taller and skinnier.. I’m 4’7 and I’m 23…
Oh poor you. I am short and ugly too. I am only 5’6″ ;(
The person who said we have control of our minds is somewhat correct. But only somewhat. We have “some” control, but we’re not even close to being able to master our minds. And some of us are better at it than others. There is a lot to be said for “positive thinking”, but it’s not a miracle, end-all cure. If you’re in a minor funk, not DEPRESSED, then positive thinking can help you out of it. Depression is an emotional response AND a chemical imbalance/fluctuation inside the BRAIN, not the mind.
We have more potential than we realize when it comes to curing ourselves of physical and emotional ailments, but not everyone is capable of doing so at this point in time.
Personally I just wanna smack anyone who is soooo well-adjusted and has had such a rainbow and butterflies life that they have no idea what depression is. I wish I was as blissfully ignorant as they are.
Dark and unlucky, I don’t know if both of you are guys. If so, I can relate. I was the shortest in school till high school. Doctors found out My pituitary wasn’t it’s normal size. So my body was hardly making any hormones of its own. So for two years I took HGH shots every single day. It sucked, but I’m thankful I did them. I still remember being bullied and picked on due to my height. Something that I will always remember. I am now 5-9” and now I’m being told to go back on HGH. Although it’s much easier now with shorter needles. So my heart goes out to the both of you. Although if you were a girl, I’d say don’t sweat it. I think short girls are really cute. Regardless, stay true to who you are. If people like you, great. If not, tell em where they can stick their opinions/comments. =)
I’m a girl… I’m not good at telling ppl to walk… I’ve learned a lot of kindness from ppl being so cruel..
I’m sorry I just can’t stand the phrase “think if the positive things” it’s kinda impossible when your so deep in a different mind set and you can’t even think straight because your mind is going at the speed of sound thinking hearing seeing feeling every negative thing from your past… I’m so fucking frustrated!!!!! (Please excuse my language!)
You’ve gotta ignore those people. There’s also people that think cancer doesn’t exist and you can “cure” it with your mind. They’re weird people, just laugh it off.
It just ticked me off because they had ppl laughing backing them up saying “yea” or “what she said” … All I wanted to do was scream “FUCK OFF!!!” (Excuse my language again)
Yeah I understand totally. I would’ve screamed at them. Funny thing is, some of the people backing them up are probably fighting bad depression and don’t want anyone to know because it’s supposed to be shameful according to society’s rules.
Antidepressants that I take don’t even help. Its because my life sucks so much and is the opposite of what it should be and it can never be anything else. I don’t understand why the antidepressants can’t help even a little bit. Have tried them all.
Well I can say one thing and that is you have more courage than I do.. I suffer from flashbacks if prior events in my life and they’ve become more frequent .. However I am so afraid of being judged or being told I’m too messed up or even afraid that if I am prescribed medication they’ll make things worse and I don’t understand how things could get worse.. But I just want to say go you got having that courage!!
For what it’s worth, I think you have a lot of courage living with that everyday.
Casey123, while I certainly haven’t “tried them all”, every one I have tried hasn’t worked for me either. Well, I got my good share of side effects off them but they only added to my problems and did n’t level me out one bit on the multiple prescriptions and increased dosages I was given.
I think some people just don’t respond to antidepressant medications, counselling, etc as well as others. As individual beings of complex chemistry and circumstances, there really isn’t a treatment that works for everybody given the variables it’s up against. Anyone who tells you otherwise is part of the same group of people that seem to think depressed people are lazy.
Unluckymale13
5’6 is not that bad and I bet you aren’t ugly.. Everyone has imperfections though but they are what makes us unique.. This is a quote I love…
” I myself am entirely made of flaws, stitched together with good intentions”
4’7 and 5’6 isn’t bad. My ex was 5ft in shoes and didn’t seem that short. Her sister was just a little taller and they liked to refer to themselves as “fun-sized”.
Of course it is possible for us to control our minds, even to the point of healing our bodies and yes, even “manifest” things or circumstances we want. But very few people have the means to do so. It’s not an issue of what is “possible”; it is an issue of what is practical to expect.
If I could ditch my depression and anxiety by running through a few guided meditations or whatever I would. I’ve tried. I’ve even spent money on established methods developed by credible professionals. Nothing.
Damned right depression is real. If you stick your thumb in a light socket and turn on the juice it’s going to hurt. Why you stuck there or why you can’t pull it out doesn’t change the fact that it hurts, “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy” tells us to act “as if” we already feel the way we want to feel. But this method is preached by HMO’s and other Psycrackitists that are only trained to help the 10% of the population that actually can respond to such baloney.
I’m happy for those that can benefit from that kind of suggestion. But not me…
Hey Darkest Raven, I’d feel like kicking that person in the balls and telling them to overcome the pain with their mind. Gee, if they couldn’t, they must just have a ‘weak mind’ that’s too lazy to overcome pain.
Yeah, I keep coming back to this post and keep thinking how completely asinine the assertion that depressed people are lazy is. Really? People go through that much heartache and pain because they aren’t “trying to be happy”? Some pay obscene amounts of their income and struggle financially to go to doctors and therapists and take medications – not to mention the extra driving, stress of the appointment, etc because they are lazy? That sounds an awful lot like trying to be happy if you ask me. It doesn’t work for everybody obviously, but there’s certainly effort involved. Nothing about depression is easy or lacks trying. It’s a struggle sometimes just to get up, let alone unlock the door and step outside. It’s not like people are killing themselves because they don’t feel like mowing the lawn.
The problem in all this is that most people don’t struggle with depression. They don’t realize how crippling it is. I mean, the shit you go through is not something that can just be shrugged off and you go about your day. It’s debilitating. They don’t understand that and only see the symptoms as laziness because they don’t understand depression’s oppressive force.
Still though…how brain dead does a person have to be to completely discount it? I can understand a person not understanding the extent of the condition, but to completely marginalize it until it has no significance is absolute ignorance.
I only wonder how much they’d laugh if they knew exactly what I have flashbacks of and why I’m so depressed… I only wonder how funny and “amusing” seeing self harm scars would be.. Of course these are my secrets all hidden behind a lying smile whenever I have to face society
It just makes it all the more offensive.
I really don’t get it. If a person has half a heart and is even just slightly considerate and compassionate to their fellow man/woman, how can it even be marginalized to such a degree?
Sorry you have to deal with such insensitive and thoughtless people… 🙁
People are insensitive assholes,dear….I especially enjoy it when they stab you in the neck with a trite fucking platitude.”.Happiness is a choice”-aaarrrgghhhh!!!#!! Or ” Theres so many people much worse off than you!You should be grateful!-“-EEEEEAAARRGGGHH!!!Die you insincere assholes!!!–is what I would like to say,but usually dont:) I find its best if I do not share my misery with people who are “normal” unless theyre a trained counselor or a psychologist. That way I dont feel homicidal quite so much:)
Yeah, “quite so much”. Some of us are still waiting for ‘Thrope’s Wrath to finally take care of our life problem. 😉
I hear you.
I’m just so tired of being misunderstood… I wish I could just say I’d rather you hate me for everything I am than have you love me for something that I can’t be or am not
What if they want to but can’t figure out how to?