How would you define a loser?
Let’s see:
Would a 25 year old who cannot hold down a job for more than 6 weeks without getting fired and who has been unemployed for about 2 years qualify? Still living under your parents roof?
How about the person of the same age never having been in a relationship or have even had a real kiss? (The main issue being societies expectations. It does not really bother me too much.)
Or what about having no real friends because you have such poor social skills, get socially anxious and are known to have a temper? Where even mental health staff have given up on you.
We’ll let me tell you, I am all of these things. I am the definition of a loser – a lazy, neurotic, egocentric loser.
And this is why I deserve to die.
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You don’t deserve to die, you were just born into the wrong circumstances/world and never found a real reason to live. At your age, you don’t need to feel bad about still living at your parents house and forget about that woman bullshit. You are still young, it is a fallacy to believe that at your age, you would of already had all (if any) the ‘good’ things in life (success, independence, woman ,etc…).
As for being a loser, meh, I’m a loser, you’re a loser and the vast majority of users of this site are losers. Don’t be so focused on the superficial, the term ‘loser’ as it is only as meaningful as you want it to be.
I’ll tell you this much: In my eyes, the only people I can admire are those who have struggled with their shit existence with all their might. It doesn’t matter if they never attained any form of success or happiness, it is the act of struggling, of SURVIVING, that fills me with awe and respect.
Nobody in the world may ever acknowledge your fight but at the very least, I’ll admire you for managing to keep on going and respect your decision should you choose otherwise.
I fit into all 3 categories. Except i have never had a job and never tried to get one and live with my parents. I hate that people have to sign their life away to a job. Also living with parents doesn’t make you a loser. And except i haven’t seen mental health staff. I am quick tempered though, but not explosive. I have terrible social skills.
maybe you don’t really want to live because of the situation your life is in. After all, we didn’t ask to be born.
. Also lots of people in this world are judgemental
You are not a loser in my eyes.
Sorry mate, I didn’t see your screen name under “loser” in the dictionary.
Looks like you’ve identified all the issues holding you back from attaining the lifestyle you’d feel comfortable(?) with — I could tell you to make an effort in remedying those issues, but we both know that isn’t going to work. You need to find it in yourself to make it happen. The only advice I can give in that regard is not to concern yourself with your peers and society as a whole — this is your life and only you can steer it in a direction of your choosing. Outside influences will present themselves, so take ’em on board or leave them to drown. Your choice.
“If it’s got to be — it’s up to me”.
I was in your exact shoes when I was 25 a few years ago. I felt old at 25 too, but now that I’m knocking at 30 I realize how young I was. You still have a lot of time before 30 to change something but it goes fast. Get financial aid and get a bachelor’s degree or something. People in their 20s are still children, especially in today’s day and age. “30 is the new 20” I think the phrase goes.
I’m 27 and can’t get even get a decent job. Haven’t had a relationship since I was 18. Still live at home. Don’t have too many friends, probably only 2 or 3 genuine friends. I’ve got a short temper but usually kind hearted. Never seen mental health people though.
It’s why I’m going to die soon too.
Just saying, you may feel like a loser (as do i) but you would be surprised how many people are in the same situation as us. Not many would admit it in the real world due to ego but a lot more people are like us than you would think.
I’m a loser… lived with my parents till I was 27. I didn’t try very hard to get out of my parents house though..I know that now. I’m 32.
I’m out, only because I break my back every day to make a living that works for me. And I’m in dept, poor and running out of food…not that I eat much.
I’m not socially awkward by nature, but rather over time I’ve developed anxiety and prefer to be alone. The girl I came to love and who relied on me left me a few months back.. she was all I really had to fight for. I already hate my life, which is why she is gone, I’m sure… cause I’m a loser. I’m never going to change and I don’t want to try. I don’t deserve to die..that’s something I use to say. But i do want to die and hope I do soon enough. Just have faith in it, and while you are still alive try to enjoy what you can enjoy out of life.
Most people here including you and me are what society defines as “losers”. The thing is society sucks and is in no position to judge anyone of us here since society itself probably is the main reason for depressions and suicidal tendencies. I’d go even further: We know what suffering means and we have the strength to keep fighting even though all odds are against us. So many people you meet here are passionate, funny and caring human beings, explicitly because they know pain. That’s not what I’d call a “loser”, it’s the exact opposite. Anyone who says you’re a loser probably best qualifies for the Hypocrite of the Year Award. They know nothing about the true values of life, they only care about money and fame.
So next time someone calls you a loser, just ignore him and smile to yourself because he’ll never be as good a human being as you are.
Yeah a huge amount of people are in the same position in their late 20’s/early 30’s or even older. That’s what happens when our generation is the first to be poorer than our parents’ generation.
The most disturbing thing about this is how times have changed, but the stigma hasn’t, so we’re basically trapped living in obscurity and isolation.
In your misery, you are still lucky. Lots of ppl don’t have the luxury of being able to crash at their parents when they are unemployed and depressed. I for one spent lots of time in the streets.