venting

Vent away! I wrote a lot, so take what works and leave the rest. haa :p

I am often lonely too. I feel so isolated… living alone, having few close friends. But I am learning! I used to wonder why I couldn’t make good friends. I was friendly. I shared with co-workers and other people.

And let me tell you, the feeling I couldn’t make friends was so ingrained I didn’t realize I was thinking it. It was just TRUE (though it is not for me, not for anyone)

But I learned three things:

1. Read someplace recently that people like you better, the more they TELL you about themselves. That makes sense! You are listening to them. Ask people questions + listen = friend 😉

2. Find people with like-interests. Join meetup.com groups (for years I kept meaning to do this…finally this year I went to a Christmas party at the leader’s home of the Meetup group!

3. Find casual friends first, don’t worry about the best friend, girl/boyfriend first. Yes, we need meaningful relationships. But if you meet people at group activities or volunteer situations over and over, you’ll make stronger connections with some, not so much of others. Have to keep trying until you match.

I wish I had known this when I was young! But glad to know now. I wish you the best. 🙂