I just want to sleep now and never wake up again. I sent an email to my mum confessing that I was diagnosed as depressed and with an anxiety disorder too. I don’t think she has read it yet but she looked my straight in the eye and said to me “I don’t give a fuck.” Â She asked me earlier to tidy my room but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I said il get around to it and thats when she said it. Im just pathetic. I adore my mum and its devastating to think that she might hate me for my illness. I cant help applying what she said to my email i cant breathe properly and I am panicing. I know im such a disappointment to my parents and I hate myself for it. I dont know what will happen if she cant understand me. She has always said I should “snap out of [it]” what ever “rut” im in. Its not that simple!! I cant just pull myself toegether. If I could I would have done it already!!! This is utter bollox I don’t know how to cope.
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Sympathy to you. Even in my pain I can’t imagine how awful that would feel. I never confessed my depression and suicidal tendencies to my parents even though it all began when my Mom expressed to my school principal, right in front of me, that they had been worried for years that I was strange, because i liked monster movies and comic books, because I drew cartoons instead of dating girls or playing sports. CRUSHING. And said to a practical stranger who didn;t give two craps about me, not to me. So for years they had considered me weird and a failure. When I realized that, that they did not love me and in fact were appalled by me, the first suicide thoughts occured; have never left.
I have come to realize, that at that same moment, other families were ENCOURAGING their artistic, sensitive, creative sons and they grew up to be Steven Speilberg, Peter Jackson, Steve Jobs. Mine were disappointed that i didn’t learn welding and take a factory job. They never read so much as a panel of my 1000 published pages, but cheerily reminded me that choosing art as a career was foolish and my own fault.
Parents have NO IDEA what damage they can do. And they aren’t intending to damage anyone. Sometimes the children must be stronger than the parents; sounds like that is your situation. Don’t fall for your Mom’s perception that YOU are the failure. Life is difficult, and teenage is the worst. You WILL leave there someday, and with luck you will find a support group of friends who judge you less, and accept who you are.
Fuck her. Your mum is an abusive stupid human being. If not, the world and you and your room would not be such a mess. Get a grip, your parents know nothing that is good for you. They are just dumb as cattle. Just look at the state of the world. You need to do it for yourself, no one else can clean up the mess but you.
Parents are just people you’re forced to know until you’re 18. You can’t choose them. I realized a while ago that I can’t wait for their approval. They’re just blood. They’re nothing more than that unless they choose to be and if they don’t live YOU rather than their idea of you, they’re not people you need to think about.