Because I’m not the one that wants to end my life. My Girlfriend just called me 20 minutes ago and said she was getting ready to jump off a local bridge thats about 120 ft high. She hasnt picked up the phone since that call. I only hope she was bluffing, but she has brought this up more and more over the last few monthes, including one failed attempt with Valium where I had to take her to the hostpital and have her stomach pumped. When they told her they were going to put her in a phychriatric ward she flipped out and had me sneak her out of the hospital.
She’s a big drinker too, doesnt do drugs ( well pot here and there ) and she has been very depressed lately mainly because she doesnt have a job and I support her fully. I live in Central America and the suicide hotlines down here are non existent for the most part. I really don’t what to do , or how to help her. Recently she totaled my car ( drunk driving ) and it really set us back finacially. She swears she learned her lesson , but continues to drink on a nightly basis, even though she doesnt drive anymore.
I recently caught her cheating on me also , although I don’t she knows I know, but maybe she feels guilt about that. I believe she must be bi-polar due to her drastic mood changes. One minute she loves me with all her heart and the next I’m a p.o.s. This goes on every day. I love her soo much and we have been together for 6 years, but She just doesnt love herself at all. I also recently found out she is bulemic and it was a secret she kep from everyone since she was 15 , shes 30 now.
What should I tell her ? What advice can I give ? Should we seek help and from whom ? I really think one of these days Im gonna come home from work and expirence my worst nightmare – finding her dead. I dont what to do , any advice would be greatly appreciated …
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It’s sounds as if you have tired everything you can. There is only so much you can do to help the ones you love. But if you can Get To The Bridge and try to talk her down! You never know when it could be a bluff and when it’s for real. But I will say that if she called you then she’s just want someone to realize she is hurting and that she needs help. This sounds really harsh but if you have to take her to the hospital and make her stay even if they do send her to a psychiatric ward. It maybe what she needs. If anything get her to tell you what it is that is making her go to all these extremes. Cause when someone talks about the thing that is hurting them it can be the best medicine.
heey, im sorry to hear about all of this,
yes , you should definetly go seek help for your grilfriend .
she really needs it, she’s lucky to have a good bofriend like you.
stay strong, in the worst of times things can get better..
and things happen for a reason /
just with all you do , keep letting her know you love her.
OMG that is so sad. i hope she’s ok. you should really get help for your girlfriend. i wouldn’t want her to die either. i don’t want her to die. i hate it when people die its so freaking depressing. just please get help for her. she is really lucky to have you – someone who loves her so much to make sure that she doesn’t get hurt no matter who is doing the hurting. just make sure you keep telling her that you love her. she will come around. i know she will. and ya, Jamie (i don’t know her but she’s freaking right) is right when someone talks about what is hurting them, it can be the best medicine. it was for me. 🙂