I am lost

I do not know why they felt they needed to take the children, but I understand how you feel. My wife took my children and I know that helplessness you describe. I didn’t want to get out of bed, either. I don’t know if the DCF will work with you or not on criteria that you can eventually meet to get them back, but regardless, you owe it to them and to yourself to make the best out of this life that you can. If they have to go away and stay away, someday they will be back to learn about their past and about their mother. Don’t disappoint them, don’t let this chance to turn things around pass you by. I have faith in you and your ability to lead a happy and successful life. Prioritize and really look at the things that you want to change and be happy about changing, and then take them one at a time until you get to where you want. If you haven’t already I would definitely talk to DCF and if possible an attorney and find out if there is something that you can do to make DCF feel comfortable that your children will be safe and in a positive healthy atmosphere in your care. You can do this. I don’t know what all is going on, but if there are things around in your life that’s dragging you down, you need to get away from that kind of life. You can even get help to get on your feet. I needed help getting on my feet, but I didn’t expect someone else to do it for me. There came a time when I had to get out of my slump and get my self together for myself and for my kids. Now I see them regularly. I don’t know if that will be possible anytime soon for you in your situation or not, but if you really do love and care about them, you need to think about their perspective. Even if they aren’t there and can’t see you, or hear you, or know how you are doing.. I bet they believe that you will be OK and that they have hope that you will pull through this and turn things around. I bet they aren’t thinking that you will just give up and die. Regardless of what they’re thinking, years from now when they look for you they won’t feel too good to find out you committed suicide long ago. You were there for them as a mother while they were in the womb even when they could not see you, and you knew a connection that you had with them. You will always have that connection with your children no matter where they are at and you need to still be strong for them even as they cannot see you right now. You will get through this and I know that your heart is big and you will let it open up a determination to get things going. I love you very much and I feel your pain but I do believe in you. Please get out of bed. Draw them pictures and write them letters every day even if you don’t have a way to get it to them right now. Show them boxes of love later on when you are reunited. Let yourself be that strong woman that your soul begs to sing about. Don’t give up. We’re here for you, too. Please be OK.

spirituality, if it is something that you enjoy, is certainly one of many outlets to assist in living a fuller life, and personal faith isnt a bad thing. i would implore you to find out what can be done, though, if you haven’t already. you may be able to get your children back, and that has nothing to do with begging. if the DCF took your children away, it is because they thought that it was the safest option for the children. either they were wrong or they were not. if they were wrong, you can get the situation worked out by proving your stability and ability to take care of them properly. if they were correct, then there still may be a chance to work with them on getting yourself to a position in which you can safely take care of them.

k3t, i dont really see what your first paragraph has to do with anything and i dont know if you are aware but it actually sounds like you are implying some kind of assumption about why the children were taken away. DCF places children in safer places permanently and temporarily for many different reasons and it really isnt our place to assume anything. she sounds like she just needs a shoulder right now until she can get on her feet, not a lecture by someone that doesnt know her situation. please consider staying on topic and keeping religion out of things here. i understand that you feel you are doing the right thing but this really isnt a place to go around promising people that god will give them their children back if they pray. do you understand? i mean no offense, and again, i know you are only trying to help. just please calm down on the in-your-face preaching or please consider helping people on a site geared specifically towards those of your faith.