I tried to commit suicide in 2002. My children were young at the time. My daughter was 11. My boys were 6 and 7 years old. My daughter has since been affected by this. She is now 18 but had tried 2 times. Hospitalized both times. Now, today, she is suicidal. crying and sad. Not feel like eating. She doesn’t want to eat, can’t sleep and doesn’t want to feel like this anymore. I don’t know what I can say to her anymore to help her. I want her to feel good and alive again and not go through this feeling anymore. She is on 3 different meds. She is being treated for bi polar, but she has not been diagnoed with Bi polar, but she is stable when she is on the meds. She is so sweet and kind and has a good heart and I hate that she feels like this. What scares her is living with these feelings all her life. and it scares me too b/c I love her so much I want her to have a good life. Suicide is a way to get out of her feelings, not to end her life. I want to help her but I am stuck b/c I feel like everything I say or do hurts her more.
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its usually very hard for teens to talk to their parents, and especially if the parent can relate. i dont know why that is but speaking as a teen its what ive found. the best thing i think you can do for your daughter is to keep loving her and support her in what she wants to do to make her better, with the exception of killing herself or hurting herself. what ive found is that friends tend to be easier to talk to and get support from than parents, so if she has some good friends support those relationships and dont try to smother her. im not saying to abandon her, just dont expect to be able to make her all better all by herself. i dont know everything, and i dont know exactly what the situation is so i dont know if what im telling you is right, but it sounds right and i trust my instincts. just try it.
im almost 18. you describe this and it sounds like i am the kid. but i’m happy that you care for your children so much that you are aware of this. i can tell my parents and they dont believe me at all and make it a joke. they are lucky to have you (rather they realize it or not). at least your there for them like that. and yes, i don’t blame them for not talking to you about these things(whichever they may be); don’t push them away like i have been. they will find someone to vent on to make it. i wish all of great luck!! =D