I’m going to be 26 in a month. I have no friends. I’ve never had a real job. The job I have now I pay to keep, a student assistant, registering for a class every three months just to hold onto it. I’m about to lose my health insurance because I’m no longer a dependent. Except, I am. I’m that pathetic. I have no degrees, live at home with my parents, have never owned a car, and my boss is two years younger than me and a coordinator over an entire department. Why do I even try? How much can I accomplish between now and thirty? I can’t even think of myself as an adult. It’s just getting so much harder, in those early mornings when I’m driving to work, not to aim for the trees. 25 seems like a good age to die, especially when there’s no reason to live.
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My opinion probably isn worth much considering I’m 15 and never had to experience the stress of adulthood, but being a teenager, I can say that what your going through now seems to be very difficult.
I just wanted you to know that even though I dont know you, I don’t think you are pathetic. You have managed to keep a job (even if you are paying for it) and that it in it’s own way an achievement. Even if you have to enrol in a class, you are learning something right? That too is something to be proud of because some people don’t even bother.
You mentioned that you have no friends. I use to think the exact same thing but then I realized I wasn’t looking hard enough. Sometimes, the problems seemed to haze around me and I couldnt see past them. I couldn’t see that past all the problems that there were people who cared and wanted to help. I just needed to create a small opening sosomeone could reach in a get me.
This small opening could start with looking at other jobs you enjoy or looking for alternative housing (although I see no problem with living at home- it’s cheaper and free food lol). For you 26th birthday why don’t you reach out (I know it’s really hard) and organize a small get-together. It’s the smallest things that can make a difference.
That being said, it could apply to yourself. No matter how small you feel, you do make a difference. And it is that difference you make that makes life worth living.
Hey AFDS, listen to vmy’s words of wisdom. Your circumstances don’t matter nearly as much as who you are. So what if you live at home… that just means you’re not wasting your money on rent. Use this as a time to plan your future. And like vmy said, have yourself a birthday party. If you have no friends, just go to a bar, pull up a stool & tell the bartender it’s your birthday. I did that once & had a blast ….only it wasn’t really my birthday 😡
^ that angry emoticon was supposed to be a shhhhh emoticon
It seems like you feel ashamed for living at your parents house. Don’t. Use that to your own advantage! That will help you so much when it comes to looking for a job and saving up for the car. Not everyone is blessed with the gift of parents handing their kids money out the ass. What matters is that you are trying, and as long as you keep trying-don’t get down on yourself. When things keep going to shit, it’s hard to keep your chin up. Easier said than done-believe me, I KNOW. But you need to find your inner strength. In the end-you are what matters. No one else. You need to find your own happiness. Just keep working at it. I’m going to be honest, things are probably going to be rough for awhile..but just keep working at it! Have faith in yourself. Work to your dreams, you have a lifetime to do it. Who made the rule that says it has to be done as soon as you turn 18? Don’t give up. Happy early birthday by the way!
It’s not as simple as them paying for me. It’s more like coming home from my sucky ass job to hear them complain about how sucky my job is, how much I cost, and how I need to move the hell out. I’m just tired of hearing that shit. Worse, what friends I thought I had basically feel the same way. And even when some don’t say it, I can see it in their faces. I’m just so tired of existing like this. What’s the fucking point?
Maybe you could explain to them your situation.
You could tell your parents what you’re experiences- maybe you can get help (counseling or meds etc)
Why don’t you write out some goals- show them or tell them to your parents and friends. To make it less awkward, just insert it into a conversation and they’ll see that you are really trying- I know its really hard.
When you say “what’s the sucking point?”-
I’m guessing what’s the point of life/living?
To be honest, I’m not sure exactly sure what the point of life is- some say it’s to learn and love but who knows?
I think for you, you need to realize what’s worth living for. Are tree things you wish you had done? There’s still time to do them. Will it hurt your family/friends?
Hope things start looking better.
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Well I can’t give you the proper advice..because certain advice could backfire considering I don’t know your friends/family and how they’d take certain things people on here are telling you to do. So I understand you’re in a tough spot. All I can say is just please keep on truckin’. Everything you’re saying..I’ve been there. I’m in it right now. I’m only 18 and all, but my family expects a lot out of me when they are just dead beats themselves. Just do what you can for now and do it for you. You can’t get anywhere if you stop trying.
P.S. [Don’t make your whole life about all of these stressful situations. Life shouldn’t be about that. I mean, school, work, money is a lot of it. But there is a bigger picture. & even though you’re constantly hounded about it, get out and do something for yourself. LIVE.]