I lead a busy life. I train for my sport every day, I attend school, I have great friends. I have every right to be happy. Everyone I know describes me as the ‘joker’, the ‘one with a sense of humour’. I’m really smart, not often a year twelve student studying PE and Psych can manage straight A’s across all subjects.
For some reason in my subconscious mind I’m not allowed to have happiness. I have an eating disorder, I overtrain with my sport and I hate myself even more everyday. I hate my looks, my voice, my thoughts and most of all, I hate my actions.
In my spare time I write poetry and sketch… out of all 82Â of my poems, three aren’t related to a down mental state.
I have one friend, he is my coach and my pseudo father. I tell him everything. He keeps track of everything for me, and he knows what to say when I’m down.
I cut myself, not for attention, but for reality. This is the only sense of freedom I can reward myself with. I feel like I’m living a robot life. I’ve tried to malnourish myself so much and work myself so hard that I’ll drop. I spend every break at school sitting alone with my ipod in to drown out my sorrows. My friends are there for me but when I’m around them, I share the mentality and everyone drops down.
I’ve spoken to countless doctors, counsellors, psychologists, even my psychology teachers and I can’t make progress. I get so mad that I can’t speak to people about how I feel, when I get worked up I just throw myself into panic attacks. My heart pounds, my head aches, I can’t breathe and the tears flow. My chest is tight and I wish for death.
I’m at my utmost pinnacle of depression I’m sure to kill myself, I tell my friend and cry for an hour or two with him. I’ve planned so many ways I could kill myself and this one was not on the list. IÂ go out for fresh air with my coach to try and get rid of my thoughts. We climb to the top of a mountain and are walking around the top path when I get so worked up I threaten to jump. I walk out to the edge, and with little hesitation, I take one more step forward. The feeling as my feet leave the ground is brilliant, I feel like I am… like I’m happy! My coach grabs my arm and rips me back onto the ledge where he pushes me to the ground and I cry for half an hour in the soothing rain.
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This was a year ago. Since then I left school, halfway through the year to start a better life. To escape my depression.
Every night I lay in bed and I recite the momentous occasion I escaped death… I wish I had have succeeded that day. My regrets get stronger and stronger every day I live on, but I’m too weak to end my life now.
There is no cure for how I feel, how I am.
Mywish is that I will one day have the courage to commit to something. I wish to commit to death.
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I have a hunch that perhaps you have been looking for your joy and your very identity in all the wrong places. And the quest left you feeling empty inside. I know that the choices about how you live your life are your own, but I wish for you a different search, into your very soul, a soul that connects you with every life form on this planet. This despair you feel has been felt by many, and when you learn to manage your despair with a bit greater ease, you can be a teacher of compassion and understanding to others who also suffer from despair. You have a talent for writing and your poems can help you heal if you will let them.. And, perhaps a wider, better support system. I hope that you can work towards committing to life–it can be devastatingly painful at times, I know. But deep within your despair are keys to getting yourself out of jail (the jail of the mind that we create with our negative thoughts–it’s a bad habit fr some of us humans). Your letter has touched me–a total stranger. That means that your ability to connect with others in meaningful ways is alive and well. Trust that, build on that.