I cant possibly understand what it feels like to get to a stage where you seriously consider ending your life but what I cant understand is for people that have children to contempate killing themselves – how can you contemplate the idea of your kids growing up without you. The fact that you wont be there to see them mature, get married etc. Who will they go to for advice? No one can fill your place. For those of you who do not have children, what about your family and friens – I am not saying you should solely stay alive for them but what about how they will feel when you kill yourself – give them a chance, tell them how you feel, let them try and help. I am studying as a student midwife in England, UK and am curently on Labour ward where the miracle of life is an everday occurrence. It makes me appreciate what I have all the time. You have your whole life ahead of you – yes you are struggling and feel you are in a pit of despair BUT there is light at the end of the tunnel. Living life is not easy and although there are many disapointments during our lives here, there are also many joys. PLEASE think about what you want to do. This life has so much to offer and please dont turn your back on it. Find a way that will bring you some peace or happiness and ultimately give life a chance. I hope I have not offended anyone but all I really want to do is make you stop if only for one second and think about the consequences of your actions……..xxx
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I agree, both my parents have attempted suicide, I’m a 17 year old depression teenage girl with extreme hormounes. If they succeeded, I would have copied their actions.
Go peddle your guilt trip to another group! The less judgement I read here the better!! If we were able to get on with things that easily, I think we would have done so.
@ Nicola – Im really sorry to hear about your personal circumstances and I hope that your life brings great happiness to you in the near future. Dont know what else to say other than if you ever want to talk then please feel free. Theres not much I can do but I can listen. Hope you feel much better soon hun.
: lessthanheather – It wouldnt be a “guilt trip” if what you were doing was a good thing. Maybe thats something to think about. I understand its not as easy to move on but is it really easier to die? What does the furture hold for you when you die – do you know what this year could bring for you if you decide to stay alive? I really and truly hope from the bottom of my heart that you try to live. I have been through some bad things in my life but everything has changed for me now – all I hope that you do is give life a chance. I dont want to make you feel guilty at all but you wouldnt feel guilty about committing suicide if you knew were doing somethin good would you? Anyway its 2.00am and I must go cos Im working tomorrow morning but I hope you consider what I have said. Sorry again if I have offended anyone. Take care for now xxx
I don’t have children, and I didn’t choose to be born at the first place.
What do you say?
Do you actually believe that people who are considering taking their own lives don’t think about the consequences? That they don’t think about what kind of effect it will have on their loved ones? I can’t speak for everyone who has ever felt such a level of despair, but I’m pretty sure that’s something A LOT of us think about. Probably too much to be honest. I personally would rather be dead than live an unhappy life just for the sake of other people. I realise that is selfish, but I also think that stopping someone from doing what they want, even if it will hurt you, is also very selfish. I had to laugh at what you said about ‘the miracle of life’ as well. I’m sorry. Life is no miracle. “No more a miracle than eating food and having a turd come out of your ass”. Life can be filled with beauty, no doubt. It’s also filled with ugliness. Some people are lucky and they see more of the beauty. Some people see the ugliness and pretend it doesn’t exist. If you’re fortunate enough to see more good than bad in life, then you have my envy. No doubt from that perspective, life is a gift from the creator (or whatever you believe). The first half of your opening sentence sums up why I’m offended by what you’re saying. It seems I’m not the only one either. “I can’t possibly understand what it feels like to get to a stage where you seriously consider ending your life”. You’re right, you can’t. I appreciate that you are only trying to help, and you have no intention of causing any grief. I’m just sick and tired of hearing the same guilt trips. Btw, they aren’t guilt trips because suicide is a bad thing and we know it’s a bad thing. It’s neither good or bad. It has positive and negative implications. We know them both, and we don’t need people reminding us of the bad, making us feel even worse than we already do.
@ nauseous – I have been thinking for days about what you wrote – I wonder if you even belive that??? I have been thinking if what you have wrote is right or not and I didnt really want to reply but feel I have to. Firstly you may not agree that life is a miracle but I do – I gave my opinion, Im a student midwife and I deliver babies, my chosen career has made me appreciate life for what it is. Yes, life can be tough but there are also amazing experiences that do occur. Why be so negative about life and living? Are there really no positives worth living for? You say that I have offended you and others – in that case I sincerely apologise and yes I do mean it. Im not trying to guilt trip anyone but I hope that people think this through cos suicide isnt something you can do and then regret. From my heart all Im saying is just give life a chance but at the end of the day Im nobody, certaintly no one you know, I just stumbled across this site and read posts over a long time and felt I had to comment which is what I did. But again Im sorry for offending anyone or for making you feel guilty. I hope you give my words some thought as I did to your comment….