i am 37, male
my girlfriend of 2.5 years left me. she was my entire world, i met her after ending a 13 year marriage in which i was not happy. my girl taught me what true love was , something i had never felt before- never knew it existed. our relationship was completely honest, no secrets, no lies. and i came to believe her feelings for me were as strong. we were inseperatable, nothing was more important to us than time together. just the touch of her skin made me tingle, everytime. my love for her grew stronger every day. i worshipped her, provided for her, done everything to make her every day special. we had an 18 year age difference, we faced a lot of obstacles – family , “friends” , society as a whole. but we survived all this and we were happy. even my ex wife said she was happy that i was finally happy. evn though she was younger tan me she was so strong, she was my rock. then from nowhere she said she was goin home, and this ment our relationship was over. we were both crying, devestated. said in her heart it didnt feel right and needed to fix that. i had to let her go because her happiness was always more important to me than my own. it has been 2 weeks, she wont let me see her becaus she is trying to get over me, she is worried she will give in and come back. i cant understand why if you love someone so much you would want to be apart from them. my heart has been torn from my body and ive been left lying on the floor ro die. i have not contacted her for 3 days, the longest period of time we hav ever been apart. i have no friends except her. i need the pain to stop. every day is worse. i havent eaten or slept more than an hour at a time since she left. i am empty, all i think about is dieing, making the pain go away. i have no will to live, no reason to exsist, no one to hold my hand.
i lost my babe
i lost my best friend
i have nothing left
3 comments
Love oh love, when it’s gone, dude I’m sorry.
Wow have I been where you are at! I laid on that floor wanting to die until I finally pulled out a razor blade and took twelve stitches to the wrist. I died. Well nope…I lived…and although I never thought it would be possible I got over her. Or did I?
Well I learned to live without her at least. She was stunningly gorgeous and we got a long so well that I couldn’t imagine we’d ever part. Until it all blew up. She was 5 years younger than me, she knew she was hot and attractive to every man on the planet, and she wanted the freedom to go see what was out there.
As I’m sure you can guess, an 18-year age difference meant you would never last. If you thought you would then you were probably fooling yourself. Lets face it, you were dating a little girl! What did you expect?
Advice, absolutely do not drink booze! It will keep your emotions in turmoil and the heart broken forever. Which will give you no chance of moving on and finding something better. And that is what you HAVE to do whether you like it or not.
And you WILL find someone better. Maybe there won’t be as deep of an emotional attachment but there will be other things in common that are in many ways, better.
Letting yourself fall apart now will only make you less desirable to others. I know you don’t care about that right now but, you will.
When I was devastated by my ‘mistake’, she wanted to break up but stay together as friends. I reached a point where I was tired of hurting and I knew that no matter how much I loved her I absolutely had to get her out of my life, otherwise the hurting would never end. It was the hardest thing I ever did but I told her not to come around or call me anymore. I started dating another one and that was it. Only I knew that my heart was still with her, but eventually I learned to love someone else and they loved me back in a honest, grown up, dependable way.
This will happen for you too if you make the right choices now when your at your lowest. Come on man! Pull yourself up, dust off your heart, and try giving it to someone that will want to treasure it! 🙂
Mate, love will fuck you right in the arse. If i was you i’d leave her alone, she might some space or something. Ma ex said so much shit to ma on sunday and left me told me to stay away n crap and guess what that’s what i exactly did. and then he came back yesterday apologising. But, i ain’t sure if i want a relationship. I’m done with love.
Just give her some space mate. You gonna be fine. Keep yourself busy n all. Go out n all watch movies n do shit you like. I know it’s hard n all. But right now all you can do is give her some time and space to think n all.
I’m sure you’ve heard about what people say, “if you truly loved someone, set em free and if they was yours they’d come back.” Maybe she just needs some time alone.