hes finally mine. ive waited for a while. im doing better. no more cutting unless we fight. i hate fighting with him. it hurts me so much. i wounder if he knows how much pain it puts me in. i love him so much. i really dont want to loose him. i want to stop fighting with him and the worst part is that we fight over the stupidest stuff. but what can i do? im not going to break up with him. i love him. any suggestions? :/
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What do you fight about?
Also, I am utterly thrilled to hear you are doing better. Getting into new activities and things can help change your moods and open up new ways of looking at the world.
I understand what it’s like to love somebody with all of your heart and yet every little thing that could take him away from you, just the thought of it, is enough to make you want to kill yourself. However…and I don’t know how old you are, but honestly, love is not the only thing to base a relationship on. Of course, love is essential; but in our lives we will fall in love with more than a few people, quite possibly, and yet many of those relationships will end and fade away. The bottom line is: are you happy in this relationship? Is he happy? And I do not recommend breaking up with him solely on whether or not he is happy, I think that would be up to him.
But perhaps you should have a heart-to-heart talk with him about the things you guys fight about… I don’t suggest just randomly talking to him about it, perhaps, as an example, if you think you will have time to talk to him about it on Tuesday, you could say on Monday that you would like to discuss something with him. This will prepare him for your discussion ahead of time, and also give him an opportunity to reflect on your relationship, so he can have a better understanding of what he wants to say, too. Being able to talk things out in a relationship is a good skill to have. Also, when you talk to him, try to remain calm, and use language that is less accusatory. In other words, instead of saying, “You never help me when I need it,” you could say, “I feel like you could help me more when ____ happens.” Saying ‘I feel’ in front of whatever you want to say instead of automatically saying ‘you do this to me’ makes things less angry, less like you are accusing them or attacking them, and ultimately less of something to fight about. 🙂 Take care, if you want to talk about anything, let me know. Be safe ♥♥