For the past six months, I’ve been having to watch a family slowly disintegrate and severely upsetting a very precious child with their nepotism and rancor. I’ve taken care of and watched over this little girl since she was a baby. She is now almost three years old, but even at that age they are affected deeply. She is a very intelligent and sweet, but devious child. However, her mother is being frivolous and completely manipulative. She wants to take away any chance of the child being with the father, who she loves to pieces and happens to be those rare fathers that care very deeply for their children. The mother wants to be petty and take everything from the father in order to make him suffer for not bending to her will and desires. I’ve known this woman for a long time now and in my opinion she has gone from unpleasant to abhorrent.
I feel at a loss due to not being able to help or interact with the little girl because the mother knows that her child loves me. She knows that the girl and I get along very well. The mother has never liked me to begin with, but always needed someone to babysit when she didn’t want to have anything to do with her child. Now she has another little girl, that I’ve had only a few interactions with because of the conflict within the family. She almost killed her second child due to her pill habits. CPS has even come into the picture and now she is painted as the victim because apparently the father is a abusive drug addict who has repetitively beaten the mother. It is actually the other way around, but because it is so rare in this day and age for a man to be beaten that CPS believes that vile woman. Since her mother and father are rich she is using everything to hinder the father’s family from getting the children back. So much for our justice system from actually giving justice. Justice is aptly depicted as a blind woman. Justice is blind if, in my opinion, a abusive, pill addicted, vile mannered, insensitive mother can get her children and a loving father, who has had his character slandered, doesn’t even have a chance. I seriously don’t know what to do. I’m just so angry and disconsolate. I know what it’s like to watch your parents separate and hate one another. I know what it’s like to feel abandoned and used between parents. I can see myself in that child. All her facial expressions show what I’ve shown in the past. It lacerates me deeply to witness over her from afar as everything seems to crumble around her. I don’t know what to do.
Quis possum ego facio?
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I’ve never understood why we need a license to fish or drive, but anybody with reproductive capabilities can have a baby. I hope the little girl doesn’t wind up on this site in a couple of years. Maybe you can try to be as much of a stabilizing force as possible…let the little girl know that there is some good in the world. It’s pretty difficult to step in and intervene legally. You’d need proof that the mom is abusing her. I guess the best you can hope for is that the mom sees the error of her ways, and changes for the better.
I find that highly unlikely on the mother’s part. I try to be in her life as much as possible so she at least as some support and love.
Right on. It’s really quite difficult to come up with sage advice sometimes. I just wanted to let you know somebody was listening. I suspect if you knew the answer, you would have already acted.
I appreciate it. I just had to let it out. It’s nice of you to answer.
yeah i read your thing too, mhmm. I think, the person that has been the most hurt is actually the Mother,,, i mean that should be most obvious…. shes been hurt, she’s broken, and that’s why she’s the way she is,,, she’s the one that needs, the touch of God… do you think you can try to makes friends with her? i think she needs a friend,
She hates my guts. I’ve been friendly with her from day one. She tells me daily, when she isn’t ignoring my existence, that she hates me. She constantly pushes me away because of misplaced jealousy and self-esteem issues. Yes, she didn’t have a great childhood, but I didn’t either. I lived through it and got stronger from it. However, she likes to dwell in her pain and use whatever type of pills that are around or she goes and buys them of the streets.
The only time she is nice to me is when she wants to drop her little girl off because she wants to get away from her and her responsibilities. She only wants to be a mother when it suits her. I took care of her little girl since she was born. I would love to say what I really think of her to her, but I don’t want her to take her daughter away from me. Every time I see her I have to take the shit that she throws at me. I just keep quiet so that she doesn’t use or take anything away from me.