So I’m pretty much done. It’s been four years since my parents kicked me out with no money and no idea what the hell to do, and I’m still in the same place I was then.
See, I was an accident baby. I think that’s where it all started. My mom got fucking high one night and hooked up with my dad when she was 16…and behold! She’s stuck with a baby she doesn’t want…namely me. All through my life she’s been inconsistent, constantly putting me down for being ‘weird’, asking why I can’t be happy like everyone else, why I can’t have ‘normal’ friends. And  I never really got to spend time with her. She was always with my step dad or playing her video games.
So I started lying a lot, started doing badly in school. Instead of noticing the sudden changes she just yelled at me, slapped me. My step dad choked me up against the wall, pulled my hair, they both called me ‘fucking stupid’, ‘selfish’. I lied to get out of doing pretty much anything. That was the problem; I didn’t feel like doing anything. I didn’t wanna go out with friends(not like I had any till 10th grade), I didn’t wanna do anything. My mom thought I was lazy. I wanted to die. Â I didn’t want to go to school because everyone always picked on me, I had no friends and the ones I did have treated me like shit. My parents, of course, didn’t know this. I did try to tell them but they wrote it off as me having social problems. It’s never anyone else’s fault, it’s always mine.
So when I was in 11th grade, I believe, my parents tried to put me on ritalin, thinking I had ADD…I tried to OD on that. I tried to OD on several different kinds of painkillers and anything I could find. It just made me pass out and feel high. My parents took me to a family psychiatrist when I was in my senior year, basically saying, ‘tell me what the hell is wrong with my child.’ I showed her, and my parents, my scars. I have many all over my shoulders, ankles, wrists, thighs. My parents were infuriated. The psychiatrist wanted to refer me to someone that deals with depression. When we got home my parents said I wasn’t going, I was just doing it for attention. My step-dad even went so far as to say ‘if you wanna do it right there’s a knife in the garage.’
I practically stopped talking to my parents, shut myself in my room. By graduation they wanted me out. I left, I’ve been moving from place to place ever since. I finally got a job, got a shared place with my boss and his gf, they so kindly let me stay with them for $250 a month. They then had to close down their restaurant and tomorrow they’re moving to Mississippi, leaving me with no place to stay again. I’m broke because they couldn’t keep me at the restaurant. I finally got a job but now I have no place to stay. My parents refuse to let me come back despite the fact I’d never be home. My boyfriend can only do so much…but he’s going to be living with his mom and he’s going to be going to the hospital a lot to go through chemotherapy. Besides…he laughed when I said I’d be sleeping in a tent. He’s pretty insensitive.
So yeah…I’m kinda done. I’m almost 20 and I feel so tired all the time like I’ve lived much longer. I feel that I wasn’t meant to be born into this world in the first place…so maybe I should fix my mother’s mistake. If only I knew how.
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Damn… I am just a normal guy, but I cant see the fairness in how your mother and her friend have been taken care for you. I make this posting from South Romania, other side of the world, but know that you have our support. I can not help you with practical stuff, but from what I see is that you as a person are very young, and life is not even thinking about you yet. So, you need to search for it. You will manage, this is a fact. It will be hard, but the reward will be better.
Life is a drama for most of the people here. And sometimes for some of them it starts at birth. When mother has no commitment for her offspring, then this might become a problem for you also. Can you commit with people? Can you ask for help? Cause your not a lost case, there is hope for people who still can speak up. You have given yourself the time to wait for comments, I have given myself the time to tell you that your a strong women, and you are able to not become like your roll models.
Above also gives you the answer on the question if you should fix your mothers mistake. First of all, every life has a meaning, yet the start defines the future, and the pain defines the rewards.
I predict when your 30, you have a normal life and smile back on your past. Yet it is more a hope I speak out. But be honest, 20 years, your young, enough chances will fly by for you to grab a few and change your life in a few days time 🙂
Cheer up! and Let us know how you are going to continue. Cause I don’t see a end for someone who is willing to sleep in a tent. You do know that ones you are there, things can only get better right?
( just dont let the wind blow your tent away, that would kill my day )
Hi GardeniaAngel.
I cant tell you how much your description of how you feel really hit home to me. I can feel your frustration, depression and despair. I am much older than you ( i am 39), so i have already been through the years that you have ahead of you. I did make it through.
I am still alone. I dont really have a desire to have friends and they just dont understand how i really dont like to do anything.
But i do have my own place, and i make sure that every once in a while, i do something that i really want to do. It gives me something to look forward to. Right now i am planning on Skydiving for the first time, maybe next month. It gives me something to research, something to be excited about and makes me feel alive and possibly happy if even for a short time.
Just my word of advice of what i have found to help me get through days, weeks, months and years of life. Try to find something interesting to you, and plan to do it. Even small things (making a short camping trip, whatever) can give you something else to think about…